Hello and thank you for your help. I will try to keep this short. Almost 2 1/2 years ago my husband and I separated for a few short months. In that time frame I had unprotected oral sex with a male through completion. It was a horrible point in my life. A few weeks later I reconciled with my husband and we had intercourse that included oral sex. I was so worried about STD's I could have caught I went to planned parenthood and they said the risk was very low but I still had them do a gonorrhea and chlymdia urine test both of course were negative. About six months later I still couldn't shake the feeling I had so I went and spent a lot of money and had a compete STD panel done. It all came back negative. Fast forward a year and four months after my encounter and my husband and I are doing great and I became pregnant. But I read stories about chlymydia being given to the baby from the mom so I again had a chlymydia and gonorrhea urine test done and again it was negative. I only had sex with husband once after this test was performed before the birth of our baby. Seven days after birth my baby developed an eye infection. So of course I was freaking out. The pediatrician ran cultures on the eye goop and they said it came back as a "bacteria on the skin" that caused the infection. But they said that for whatever reason the lab said they were unable to run the chlymida culture, which has just fueled my anxiety. But since the eye infection had already cleared up they said not to worry. The eye was actually better that night after seeing
What is the likelihood I caught anything from my one encounter? What is the likelihood I gave it to my husband and he would give it back to me? Should I test again? I just need closure on this and I'm hoping I can find it here.
Gonorrhea or chlamydia always should be thought about when a newborn has an eye infection. However, it is also true that other bacteria, including normal skin bacteria, are more commonly the cause. It is inconvenient that the chlamydia test (and gonorrhea test?) for some reason wasn't done, but several other reasons make these problems very unlikely. By itself, each of these reasons is reassuring; taken together, it is simply impossible that you, your husband, or your baby have any infection from your sexual encounter while separated from your husband.
* Chlamydia doesn't take hold very well in the mouth or throat. Such infections are very rare. Gonorrhea can do so, but other reasons (below) rule out any problem with gonorrhea.
* Even if chlamydia is in the mouth or throat, it is rarely if ever transmitted. Oral gonorrhea can be sexually transmitted by oral sex, but uncommonly; and anyway, it statistically unlikely your partner had either infection. (If he had gonorrhea, you probably would have known; gonorrhea in men is usually quite obvious and -- with apology for being a bit gross -- you would have seen pus dripping from his penis.)
* Chlamydia and gonorrhea clear up on their own, without antibiotics -- over a few weeks for gonorrhea and a few months for chlamyida. It is exceedingly unlikely you could have carried either infection this long.
* The chlamydia and gonorrhea tests are highly accurate; your several negative tests prove without doubt that you don't have a genital infection. The urine/genital tests don't check for throat infection, but I already explained why these are very unlikely.
* Since you for sure don't have genital chlamydia or gonorrhea, it is not possible you transmitted it to your baby. As discussed above, other bacteria cause most such infections.
In summary, you really should not be having any second thoughts about all this. Of course, this opinion assumes your history is accurate, that neither you nor your husband has had other partners since the events while you were separated.
I hope this helps with the "closure" you need. Best wishes for your growing family--
Thank you so much. I have struggled with this for so long, on top of dealing with the guilt I have. I have read other forums before and they have said what you just told me but I just needed to tell my story and get your opinion. My story is accurate and I finally feel I can lift this heavy bag off my shoulders. I was so worried I contracting something in my throat and gave it to my husband who in return gave it me through intercourse. But thanks to your help I am able to see the unlikelihood of this happening. Thank you so much.
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