Questions about Herpes

[OneTime7]

I have been recently diagnosed with Herpes, questions about how I contracted it.

I started having sex with this guy "K" about the 6th of january, by the by next weekend I was really sick with dizziness, sore throat, general achy body.  Went to clinic and was visually diagnosed as having strep throat. Stopped seeing that guy last sexual encounter with him was around the 18th of the month.  An old friend "M" came by on the 23rd and we had sex (previous partner)  About the 25th of the Month I had my first herpes outbreak.. finally went to the doctor on the 30th and was diagnosed with GH.

Within this timeline.. and all I read I assumed that "K" was the provider to this herpes hell I now live with.  But when I called him about being tested - didn't accuse - he denied having it and said he was making a doctors appt to get tested - called and said test was negative.  I have no way of knowing is he is being truthful --

Am I right? within this timeline is he the one who gave it to me?  Previous sexual encounters with "M" over the a four month period and I was fine.

[gracefromHHP]

You could've contracted hsv from either of these partners.  Just because you've had sex with the one before and never noticed any symptoms doesn't mean that he can't be the one to have given it to you.  Herpes isn't THAT contagious that it has  to be transmitted early on in a relationship - some couples go years and years together before herpes is transmitted - if at all even.  

How were you diagnosed as having herpes? Do you have hsv1 or hsv2 genitally?  

You might never figure out who gave it to you ( and even though this is the first time you noticed symptoms - unless you had a negative blood test and a + lesion culture this might not even be a brand spankin new infection for you either - over half of suspected new herpes infections are really just the first obvious reactivation of a prior infection ).  I personally don't trust anyone unless I've seen their test results with my own eyes - otherwise you don't know if they were really tested or if they were accurately tested or if they are telling you the truth. You can ask both partners to show you their test results but they don't have to show them to you so you might never figure it out. What is important is knowing what you have so that you can reduce the chances of future partners contracting this from you. Be sure to read the herpes handbook at www.westoverheights.com to get up to date and accurate info about herpes. There is also a terrific patient counseling video there done by Terri Warren herself to watch that addresses a lot of the feelings going on when you are first diagnosed.  

I know it seems like a lot at the moment but it's not near as bad as it sounds. Thankfully you can control your herpes quite a bit with medications and you can significantly reduce the risk of transmission to a partner if you utilize proper precautions. I've lived with it 20 years myself and it's really not the issue its assumed to be.

grace

[OneTime7]

Thank you for responding to my questions.. This is a new virus.. I went to the doctor and got tested.


Thanks again

[tamlloyd]

I agree, it could be either one of them. And the symptoms show up in men not as quickly in women. Sounds like yo have an active sexual life. Please try to keep it monogomous or always use protection. There is too much out there now. And you never know if men are women only or women maybe.