On the one
handHand or foot spasms
Hand tremor, the description of the lesion certainly is not typical of herpes, for the reasons you mention (no blister-like lesion, no ulceration, etc). On the other
handHand or foot spasms
Hand tremor, herpes is the most common cause of recurrent inflammatory genital lesions.
1) Therefore, I cannot judge the numerical risk that you do or don't have herpes. It is possible.
2) Of course it's possible, but based on your partner's response to your question, it seems unlikely she has herpes. But I have no way to know whether she understands the disease, realizes that people without symptoms can have it, or what her sexual risks might have been in the past.
3) You can either just go have an HSV blood test now, or wait for the next recurrence of a lesion and see a herpes-knowledgeable health care provider immediately (within a day). Most student health services have plenty of experience with herpes and other STDs; they should be able to accurately figure out what is going on.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
I should also note that after that time last year I never experienced an initial outbreak of blisters or anything resembling herpes. The raised area that occured before happened 3 months after I was intimate with her. I should also note that the intercourse was brief about 2-3 minutes unprotected before i stopped and realized what i was doing.
Your thinking is illogical. The risk is low for any given sexual expsoure, but the fact is you have symptoms that could be herpes--so no matter how low the chance might have been, it is possible you were one of the unlucky ones. And plenty of people get herpes in their teens and 20s. Saying most herpes occurs in people in their thirties and don't have it because you're younger is like a 60 year old saying his or her chest pain can't be a heart attack because most people with coronaries are over 70.
Stop trying to come up with a definitive answer from me or any other online source. It isn't going to happen. Follow my advice to question no 3.
HHH, MD