Syphilitic lesions of the mouth are so rare that there is no "typical" location, not that it should be a concern for you. EWH
For starters, not only syphilis rare int he UK but it is also far and away much more common among men who have sex with other men than among heterosexuals. You have virtually nothing to worry about syphilis-wise.
As for herpes, it could certainly be acquired by oral sex however in your case I'd bet against it. When oral herpes is acquired this way, it most often involves the lips and perhaps the tongue, not the gums. In addition, it does not involve diarrhea. It is far more likely that you acquired some other virus in your community (not necessarily through sex) which may have caused this. Should the ulcerations re-appear, there is no harm whatsoever in getting such lesions cultured. Beyond that, I would not pursue this further. A blood test for herpes will be of no help in sorting this out.
Finally, we often get "if I got this, could I have passed it on to may regular partner" questions. It just does not happen with any appreciable frequency. Why, because first of all, most of the people who raise such questions on this site in fact do not have the disease they are concerned about. A second contributor is that even if a person has an STD of one sort or another, most exposures do not lead to transmission.
My assessment- you have little to worry about. I would not recommend further testing at this time. EWH
No change in my assessment. But you are re right, this thread must end. Further questions will be deleted. EWH
This is certainly the last message on the thread.
Thank you for your help.
Best regards
I did have a look at her 'problem', which was a strange thing to do for me! She now does not feel it, it is small blister like and grey/white. It is right on the anus opening. No pain at all.
No change in assessment?
Thanks
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No change in my assessment. EWH
Good Afternoon, one last clarification please before end of thread...
I am of the understanding the fact that I made contact with partner in the place she now has a sore/bruise/blister (she has never had before, 7 weeks after contact) when I had the problems in my mouth still does not change things? And that to worry about a small chance of Syphilis is irrational, White male UK, with low number of sexual partners one stupid incident? Generally impossible to catch orally and then pass orally in my case?
Thank you, your service is a god-send to many people!
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Right, thanks. I hope you are right! Crossing my fingers the partners problem is not related!
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Brilliant. Thanks for the advice.
I have read the spotty/ulcerated gum nearer the back of the mouth is not consistent with Syphilis anyway, is this correct? I do worry a lot at times, especially when I get a call like I did regarding my partners problem!
We all do the odd stupid thing, and then feel the guilt for a long time.
Your reassurance has made me feel at ease, I appreciate it. I hope the girls problem clears up soon too.
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