Obviously you missed the main point of my reply. I gave you several reasons why you can be sure you don't have syphilis, not only the test result. Even without any test, you could be 100% certain you didn't catch syphilis.
"how to undrestand your statement: standard syphilis blood test is always positive within 6 weeks" A negative test later than 6 weeks proves the person was not infected. However, as you were told on the community forum, even 5 weeks is highly accurate.
There are no over-the-counter tests available in the US and I am unfamiliar with those available in other countries. But the technology of syphilis testing, including the rapid tests, is highly reliable.
You need to accept the reassurance you have received, not only here but on the STD community forum -- and accept the apparently difficult reality that you do not have syphilis. Go on with your life.
That's aall for this thread. I wont have any further comments or advice.
Also how to undrestand your statement: standard syphilis blood test is always positive within 6 weeks,
Thanks for you answer that 12 weeks was home self test kit what we can purcharse here in Europe in a drugstore can I trust such a test??? Only "real" test I had in local STD centre in 5 weeks from the risk - is this conclusive???thanks a much for your patience
Welcome to the forum. It is pretty much impossible you have syphilis.
First, syphilis is rare in the US and most industrialized countries. In the US, there are only 10,000-20,000 new cases yearly in the entire country and most of those occur in gay men. Even among sex workers, it is a very rare problem, so it is very unlikely your partner was infected. Second, condoms are highly effective in preventing syphilis. Third, if you had syphilis, probably you would have had symptoms, i.e. an obvious sore (the chancre) of primary syphilis. Fourth, if you had syphilis more than 3-4 months, there is a good chance you would have had secondary syphilis, with a skin rash and other symptoms. Finally, the standard syphilis blood test is always positive within 6 weeks, so your negative test at 12 weeks proves you weren't infected.
So there is no possibility your wife's oral sore was due to syphilis that she caught from you. There are numerous causes of such lesions, all of them a hundred times or more common than syphilis. Oral herpes is always a consideration. If her sore has cleared up and doesn't return, probably nothing need be done. If similar sores appear in the future, she should see her health care provider about it. Whatever she has, it is entirely unrelated to your commercial sex adventure several months ago. Don't worry about it.
I hope that helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD