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Sex w/ Thai Bar Girl/Prostitute - afraid of contracting HIV/STD

Hello,

I was out on my own in Patong on Phuket island in Thaland two nights ago and I was very drunk. More drunk than I would've liked...

I took one of the go go bar girls to my hotel, she was strict that we use a condom, as was I, so we bought some at the local minimart.(I believe they were Durex condoms)

She performed oral sex on me for 3 different 5 minute instances WITHOUT a condom.

We had vaginal sex for about 1 to 1.5 total hrs WITH a condom.(She would not allow me to perform anal sex on her - saying she was 'scared')  There were approximately 3-4 different 'sessions' of vaginal sex. I used 3 different condoms and I am quite confident that I ONLY penetrated her WITH a condom on.  There was one time that I think I slid the condom off and put it back on...  I was drunk so I am not 100% sure about this.  I do not recall noticing that any of the condoms were ripped or broken...

I was not able to ejaculate with the condom on so I 'finished' using my own hand onto her - not in her mouth or anything like that.

I did not notice any abrasions or lacerations on my penis since the incident.

I have no reason to believe she was HIV+ but I know the virus is prevalent in Thailand so I am concerned.

Should I be concerned about having contracted the virus from her during PROTECTED vaginal sex?
Should I be concerned about having contracted the virus from her during UNPROTECTED oral sex?
Should I be concerned about any other STDs?
I have a girlfriend back home and we generally have unprotected sex - I have never cheated on her before and won't ever again.  What should I do?  I don't want to get her sick if I somehow contracted something but I also am afraid she'll leave me if I tell her the truth.

I have been stressing out about this since the incident.  Any answers, help, or advice would be truly appreciated.

I regret this on so many levels, the risk to my health, supporting the sex trade/tourism, and frankly not living up to my moral standards.

Thank you.
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3149845 tn?1506627771
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You are and please be balance and remember the good time you had with her. All experiences in life are important and there is somthing to be learned in eveything.
The girl you were with most likely needed to feed her family so what can one really say about anything.
Your worried about giving something bad to your family and she worried about giving something good to her family;

We are all in this world together!
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Thanks - based on the same story they said no.  I should be fine - I hope!
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3149845 tn?1506627771
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Not at all if you used protection vaginally, they are very effictive in preventing the spreading of diseases like this. There needs to be some blood transfer. But you can post on the HIV prevention forum to make sure
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Hey - thanks for the quick response.

I am confident that I only had protected vaginal.  Like I said, there may have been a moment that I readjusted the condom but I never penetrated without it on.

Do I need to worry about HIV?
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3149845 tn?1506627771
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testing windows post exposure:

Gono and Chlamydia    1 week
syphlis     6 weeks
herpes and hiv      3 months    
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3149845 tn?1506627771
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Hi and welcome. Ive been to the same Patong and its a real fun area and quite a night life.
Unprotected oral is low risk for contracting but low doent mean "no".
If you dont remember with the vaginal thats another thing as now one knows your risk level.
Usual symptoms are white discharge and burning or itching in the urethra that occur about 5 days after exposure.
Normally experts dont recomment testing without symptoms but since you have a girl friend best to do a full screening for all std and non std's like herpes.
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