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Dear Dr,
I wanted to thank you for your response. It's a pleasure to get an opinion from an expert. I am following your advice and taking it a step further, by seeing a GP for a full-body check-up, including stds. Will give just a quick recap of my situation since i know you answer lots of questions. Am a 27 yr old male, heterosexual, circumsized, never used drugs, never used hookers. Have slept with 14 women in my life, all with condoms. No exception. Only non-condom relation was with my ex-gf who was a virgin before me, and that was after 6 months of condom use. I have received and performed oral on the majority of women. From your answer, you told me not to worry about std's including hiv, but to do an annual test since i am sexually active. I ran out of space in my past question since am trying to be as thorough as possible, and not leave anything out. I moved out of the US to come to London a couple of months ago for work. Before leaving was having sex with a 19 yr old woman, with condoms of course, but did perform and receive oral. She had been in a long term relationship before seeing me, has slept with 3 other men in her life, though her last bf cheated on her. Last time I had sex was 06/06. Since moving here, under lots of stress so my way of coping is through working out and masturbating about 3 times a day. Sometimes I masturbate in a condom, sometimes without. So 5 weeks after my last encounter with this woman, and taking into consideration what I wrote 2 lines above, I started feeling a pain, maybe pain is too strong a word, but a discomfort when peeing. The weird thing is that when I didn't think about it, it was as if nothing was there, but when i thought about it, the discomfort would reappear, and could have been while I was sitting down watching tv, at the gym, etc... it lasted for two weeks. Went to see a dr here in london, and he told me everything looked fine. not 2 worry. The discomfort went away for about a month, then reappeared again, but only when peeing. it was slight. then it went away again, and reappears every so often. right now, all is fine. Told my mother and she thinks that I have always been a hypochondriac, and am ashamed to agree with mom. Now i looked online, and looked at my tongue, and saw that it was pale/whitish (if there is such a word). I go to the dentist 2/yr and never hear anything bad. Showed my mother when i saw her and she laughed, saying that it's my natural tongue color, and that my brother has the same tongue. Since I am under stress, my mind may be playing tricks on me, and I thinking about seeing a shrink. From a medical point of view, are these signs of gono or chlam (the discomfort), or any other std? I also want to take time and say that since I have been reading your answers a week ago, I have learned so much about stds, incl. hiv. I was always told since i am straight, circumsized, no drugs, and use condoms, i am fine. Thank you for explaining it in such a good way and educating us.
I wanted to thank you for your response. It's a pleasure to get an opinion from an expert. I am following your advice and taking it a step further, by seeing a GP for a full-body check-up, including stds. Will give just a quick recap of my situation since i know you answer lots of questions. Am a 27 yr old male, heterosexual, circumsized, never used drugs, never used hookers. Have slept with 14 women in my life, all with condoms. No exception. Only non-condom relation was with my ex-gf who was a virgin before me, and that was after 6 months of condom use. I have received and performed oral on the majority of women. From your answer, you told me not to worry about std's including hiv, but to do an annual test since i am sexually active. I ran out of space in my past question since am trying to be as thorough as possible, and not leave anything out. I moved out of the US to come to London a couple of months ago for work. Before leaving was having sex with a 19 yr old woman, with condoms of course, but did perform and receive oral. She had been in a long term relationship before seeing me, has slept with 3 other men in her life, though her last bf cheated on her. Last time I had sex was 06/06. Since moving here, under lots of stress so my way of coping is through working out and masturbating about 3 times a day. Sometimes I masturbate in a condom, sometimes without. So 5 weeks after my last encounter with this woman, and taking into consideration what I wrote 2 lines above, I started feeling a pain, maybe pain is too strong a word, but a discomfort when peeing. The weird thing is that when I didn't think about it, it was as if nothing was there, but when i thought about it, the discomfort would reappear, and could have been while I was sitting down watching tv, at the gym, etc... it lasted for two weeks. Went to see a dr here in london, and he told me everything looked fine. not 2 worry. The discomfort went away for about a month, then reappeared again, but only when peeing. it was slight. then it went away again, and reappears every so often. right now, all is fine. Told my mother and she thinks that I have always been a hypochondriac, and am ashamed to agree with mom. Now i looked online, and looked at my tongue, and saw that it was pale/whitish (if there is such a word). I go to the dentist 2/yr and never hear anything bad. Showed my mother when i saw her and she laughed, saying that it's my natural tongue color, and that my brother has the same tongue. Since I am under stress, my mind may be playing tricks on me, and I thinking about seeing a shrink. From a medical point of view, are these signs of gono or chlam (the discomfort), or any other std? I also want to take time and say that since I have been reading your answers a week ago, I have learned so much about stds, incl. hiv. I was always told since i am straight, circumsized, no drugs, and use condoms, i am fine. Thank you for explaining it in such a good way and educating us.
no risk because the girls you were with do not sound to be at risk themselves.
thank you shygirl. i really appreciate it. the doctors i saw actually did not give me a blood test. i told them the same story I told Dr. H, and they told me my risk was small, and not to worry. So I never got tested. I am going through my physical this week and will do all the blood tests to put my worries to rest. Yes, the whole safe sex issue has been engrained in me so I always carry condoms, and when i don't, i only have oral sex. From what dr. H says, that is safe sex. I seriously doubt the 2 women whom I dated and had sex with while they had their period, were infected. I am just look at worst case scenario in these cases. My only worry was the blood on the condom coming in contact with my penis while taking it off. Any risk? sorry to bother you again with my question. thanks shygirl.
I want to take the time and thank you Dr. H for the amazing work you do. You are a saint. I am an educated man, but have learned more about std's over a week, reading your forums. God bless you Sir. Shygirl, thank you for your comments. Just had a question for you, don't want to bother Dr. H with this. He is busy enough. I have had sex with 2 women while they had their periods. One was a relation of 2 months, and of course with condom. The other was my ex-gf(who was virgin beforehand), first with condoms, then after a while without. After breaking up with my girl, we met up a yr later, had sex, though she had her period, but this time with condoms. Any risk?
many thanks
many thanks
your welcome excel!! you have a very very small risk (like 1 in million, if it were me, I wouldn't worry about it. that's the beauty of condoms. and also the beauty of being a responsible guy such as yourself. I still believe you dont need further testing. the doc would say the same. as I said above, stay safe! You've had recent testing, you can feel confident that you are clean. You are doing a good job of taking care of yourself, just keep it up. You can still enjoy sex and intimacy, as long as you are responsible, and practise good judgement. and if your instinct is telling you something, go with it.
you have no risk guy!!!! you've been using condoms, and also have been incredibly responsible with your sex life. please try to put this out of your head. there are some of us on here who have done much much worse, and we're fine. so are you. just stay responsible, and you will not contract hiv. you do not need any further testing.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Your mother is a wise lady and undoubtedly is right. Your symptoms do not suggest any STD. As I have said innumerable times, whenever a person suspects his/her own symptoms have a psychological origin, s/he usually is right. I suggest you follow up on your own inclination to seek counseling.
HHH, MD
HHH, MD
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
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STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
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