Should I tell about my STD status

[jbug74]

I recently tested positive for herpes 1 & 2.  Just yesterday in fact.   I am currently married and have been for the last 6.5 yrs.  Should I contact two partners that I had unprotected sex with before I got married and during my 3 yr separation from my husband?  Is it my responsibility to do so?

[stillHurting]

Responsibility?  No, I don't see how you could call it that.  If you had HIV, then it would be a responsibility.

But do I think morally it's the right thing to do?  Yes, I do.  Because if they are infected but asymptomatic, they could spread it to more people without knowing.

[jbug74]

I have made contact with a recent partner (a relationship I had during my marriage separation that lasted 2yrs) via email. I said I have something important to tell him and to let me know when we can talk.  He said to give him a call at work and I said no because it was too personal.  Now I'm scared. I dont know if I can call him today, tomorrow or ever.  I wanted to tell him that I recently been tested pos, and ask him if he has been tested and/or has had any symptoms.  I thought it all through before I sent the email.  Now, I'm not sure if can do this. What do I say exactly? How will he respond? I have been loosing sleep over my STD status. My so-called husband is already blaming me as he feels "IF" he has it, then I gave it to him and that it's probably something that this other person gave me.  What if this other person blames me, too?  Any advise would be helpful.

[kat79kat]

I found out I had this before I got married, I told my husband and he was okay with it.  He actually has it now.  We ended up separating.  It was very hard for me to tell my boyfriend that I have it, but before I would have sex with him, I told him.  I couldn't tell him up front, but I eventually told him.  You just have to come out and tell him.  Alot of people have it, and they just don't know it.  His response may be completely different than what you expect.  I was scared because I thought my boyfriend would want nothing to do with me, but we have been together for almost 3 years..

Best of Luck to you!