You are correct there is little easily accessible information on genital HSV-1 versus HSV-2, largely because adequate research hasn't been done. The information I provide below is based on common-sense extrapolation from soft data.
First, I agree it is unlikely you have HSV-1 orally. Generally it's one or the other; being infected both genitally and orally appears to be uncommon.
Second, most herpes experts do not recommend Valtrex or other suppressive therapy routinely for persons with genital HSV-1, only HSV-2. Mostly it probably isn't necessary, because symptomatic recurrences and asymptomatic viral shedding are infrequent with genital HSV-1 (and therefore genital-to-genital transmission probably is uncommon); and it might not work anyway, because HSV-1 generally is less susceptible to Valtrex than HSV-2 (so that if it works, it might require higher doses of Valtrex than you are taking--but it has never been studied, so the effective dose isn't known.
Third, even with no precautions, the transmission risk to your partner probably is low. If you are like most people, you will have little asymptomatic viral shedding and may never have another outbreak. (Of all people with initial genital HSV-1 infections, 40% have no symptomatic recurrences in the next 2 years, and most people have only 1-2 recurrences, then none. Very different than HSV-2, which typically recurs several times a year for many years.
Fourth, the main thing that would make your decisions easier would be for your partner to be tested for HSV-1. There is a 50% chance he already is infected with it. If so, he is immune and you need take no precautions to protect him. (If not totally immune, he is at least highly resistant. People rarely get second infections with the same virus type, anywhere on the body.) In the meantime, the main thing is for your partner to have no contact with your genital area (either his mouth or penis) when you are having symptoms that suggest a herpes outbreak. Certainly condom-protected sex would be very highly protective.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
Thanks doctor.