I am extremely grateful to you, Doctor, for setting my mind at ease, as well as impressed by the wonderful work you do here! Many thanks!
Thanks for the thanks -- I'm glad to have helped. I was aware of the timing; it doesn't change my opinion or advice.
Look at it this way: every week there must be a few million people in the US who develop sore throats or other cold symptoms, and a few million who perform oral sex on partners, often in non-monogamous settings. Obviously, those two events therefore will occur randomly in many of the same people, perhpas a few thousand -- yet almost none of them will have HIV as the cause. On top of that, you had a sick kid in the house, perhaps the most common of all exposures leading to sore throat.
Thanks for your prompt reply, you have helped me calm down a lot! Only, I wanted to clarify that my symptoms started 8 days after my last exposure. Does that change anything? Once again, thanks so much!
Welcome to the forum. Thanks for your confidence in our services.
Your sore throat has nothing to do with your sexual exposures. There are many reasons I'm confident about it. First, it is clear you and your partner are at no significant risk of STD. These infections don't materialize out of the blue -- someone has to catch it from another partner. Second, you've both had negative STD tests, and all the standard tests are highly reliable. Third, sore throat and nasal congestion are among the most common symptoms human beings experience, and as everyone knows, innumerable garden variety viruses, colds, etc are the dominant causes. Fourth, as you say yourself, you have another obvious source of infection (your child). Fifth, oral STDs rarely cause sore throat, and they never cause nasal congestion, stuffiness, etc. (Contrary to statements you can find on line, oral gonorrhea rarely causes sore throat or any other symptoms.) Sixth, persisting symptoms after azithromycin argues against STDs as the cause. Finally, HIV also dosn't cause these symptoms, especially with congestion.
You may have had very good reasons to end this relationship, but I hope your symptoms and fear of STDs wasn't the main reason. I have no way of knowing whether you are sharing your daughter's respiratory virus or another one, but it certainly isn't an STD problem.
For all those reasons, there is no reason you can't safely have sex with your husband.
If you remain nervous, see your doctor or your local public health or Planned Parenthood clinic for STD/HIV testing. I recommend it not because I believe there is any chance of a positive result, only because you may be further reassured by the negative results.
I hope these comments have been helpful. Best wishes-- HHH, MD