Unfortuntateley, no on-line doctor can compete with the opinions and diagnoses of doctors who have examined someone personally, especially for a somewhat complex history like yours. From all you describe, and especially the negative test result, I agree you have no STD at present. And I am certain you have nothing you can transmit to your wife.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
if you want to talk to me more directly here is my email address:
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I would really like to enteract with you since I'm surrefing from the same symptoms as you do.
regards and may My GOD bless you.