I applaude your concern for your partner. Anxiety and stress can certainly increase the frequency of recurrences in some people. On the other hand, resistance is vanishingly rare (less than 1% in person such as you) and nothing you have mentioned suggests that your virus is drug resistant.
The best samples are from fluid-filled viesicles but you can get good culture specimens from ulcers as well
EWH
Thank you for you response. Is it possible for herpes to become chronic over time due to stress, anxiety or another trigger? The valtrex seems to help some. Is there a way to see if the virus has become drug resistant? Soemtimes the pimples will be on both sides of my body in the same location. To get a good sample/culture does the pimple (usually they have a light white center) need to have visable fluid? Finding an educated Dr. has been a challange. So far my neurologist seems the most knowledgable. He did blood work including checking my immune function-all was normal.
I'm excited about my new relationship and more so about him understanding but worry about keeping him safe. Are there positions that are safer? I also feel a lot of burning and tingling all over-anxiety maybe because I'm so worried about infecting him?? Appreciate your thoughts and wish I lived on the west coast.
The situation you describe is rather unusual and may bear further evaluation by your doctor. The reasons that I say this include:
1. For herpes to be recurring in variable locations (chest, thighs, buttocks, genitals) is most unusual, particularly when they are that widespread.
2. For valacyclovir, particularly in the dose you are taking, to not have more effect is also unusual.
3. Over decades of infection it is the tendency for herpes recurrences to diminish in frequency, not increase.
For these reasons, if you were my patient, the first thing I would do is reappraise the diagnosis. I would stop the valacyclovir and verify using culture or PCR that what you are experiencing is HSV. That your blood test is positive for HSV-1 and HSV-2 does not mean that what you are experiencing is HSV. There are other dermatological processes which might be causing this.
If it is indeed HSV and the valacyclovir is working then I would continue taking it. As for the questions you ask:
1. Without lesions, the risk to your BF from performing oral sex on you is low but not zero. His HSV-1 offers some protection and the transmission through this route is rather uncommon. The risk, or course, could be virtually eliminated through use of dental dams.
Hope this helps. You may also want to pose your question to MedHelp's herpes community site. The personal experience available through it is enormous and may help you in this rather peculiar situation. EWH