You may indeed have a reason to be "reasonably angry", but not with your wife or yourself. Just be angry at the doc who made your diagnosis.
Ureaplasma urealyticum and Mycoplasma hominis (which are two different bacteria) are normal in everybody's genital tract and you should not have been tested for them. They cause no symptoms and are not STDs.* Because they colonize the genital tract, they are shared by sex partners, but their presence does not imply that either you or your wife have had other partners recently. STD experts routinely recommend against even testing for them, and except for research studies, we never test people in my STD clinic for either of these organisms.
* Let me clarify one point. At one time, UU was felt to be a common cause of NGU and some people still believe it is. However, this always was controversial. Very recent research suggests that some strains may be more likely to cause symptoms in men than others. But nobody has ever shown them to be important STD pathogens, and M. hominis has never even come under suspicion.
Are you in the US? Lingering beliefs about UU and MH are more common in some parts of the world than in my country. Very few US docs ever test for them at all.
As to what is causing the bump in your urethra, I cannot judge the cause. Given your and your wife's sexual lifestyle, it almost certainly isn't an STD. Maybe a fibroma or cyst of some sort? See a provider (a different one!), perhaps a urologist.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
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I just met with my new urologist yesterday. He took a urine sample and had me urinate in two seperate cups, the initial just a few drops and even I could see something floating in the urine and the rest in another cup. The first cup contained mucus and a .5 or 5 white blood cell count. He did not seem to concerned with it, however, it is a new symptom that was not there before. Plus this is after a week and a half of Doxcyleine. He said it was obviously something in the urethra not the bladder. He did not seem to think the mark on the inside of the urethra was anything other than a irration mark caused by me looking at it constantly ( I never looked there before and I have no idea if that has been there for a while or just a recent addition. Doc, should I have another series of STD tests ?? Are these new additional symptoms a new STD or did maybe I test to soon ?? Is this a uretha infection of some kind ?? Thanks for all your help..