Wart causes marriage separation

[robbykidd]

Is it possible that in 1991, a doctor that would have removed a wart would not have explained the risk of HPV and the fact that the wart could reappear 18 years later and infect my wife. My wife thiks I'm a liar and a cheater. She does not believe me when I say that the doctor never explained the risks. She has since left me. I feel like I am waking up from a bad dream.

[scared_half_to_death]

Sorry Dude. I think that it would be exceedingly for HPV to reoccur that far out. Is it possible that she is the liar and cheater?

[robbykidd]

I don't think so. The wart was very small, but it was in the same place it was when I had it removed the first time. I honestly don't know how long it had been there and would have never noticed it if my wife hadn't had the abnormal pap.

[auntiejessi]

The wart you had 18 years ago wouldn't account for your wife's abnormal pap.  Warts are a different strain of HPV than the ones that cause abnormal paps.

How long have you been married?  If its been 18 years, I would say someone stepped out more recently.  The longest I've ever seen anyone go before getting symptoms is 7 years, and I'm still not sure I believed her story, but that's the longest.

AJ

[robbykidd]

We have been together 6 years. Would planned Parenthood give her a specific test for HPV that would not be caught in a normal pap. They just told her during her exam to place an IUD device that she had an STD that they needed to discuss. The wart I am treating now is in the same exact spot as the one from several years ago. I have never stepped outside of the relationship and haven't really suspected her of it. Do you mean that we could both have HPV of different strains?

[auntiejessi]

I'm saying that's exactly what's happening, and its possible you have had this before you came into the marriage, or one of you had it and it was just not active.  Its also very common to get more than one strain at a time.

The strains of HPV that cause warts are not the same as the ones that cause abnormal paps.

She might have had an HPV test before, but probably only if she had an abnormal pap.

You might have gotten a wart in the same place because that place just might be more vulnerable because you had it there before - that's just a theory, though.  It doesn't mean its the same infection from 18 years ago.  In fact, I would seriously doubt that.

You should check out www.ashastd.org for some great info on HPV.  Unless you have some supporting evidence, HPV alone isn't reason to suspect cheating.

AJ

[robbykidd]

Thank you...Your advice has been helpful!!!

[concerned265]

youve probably had it all along

[spunkygirl54]

yes it is totaly possible. once you have HPV it stays with you the rest of your life. the doctors told me when i got it that when i get stressed out i could get another wart episode. if stress levels get to high it can cause you to break out. just thought i would let you know. have your wife look into it. if she talks to a doctor about it she can find that out.

[empathy60]

I think your doctors didn't tell you the entirety of how it works.  While HPV may "say with you the rest of your life" it is often in a latent state- similar to the way chickenpox or mono stays with you your entire life.  And in some cases it appears as if the virus does indeed clear, though doctors are unsure of if this is because the virus is just at an undetectable level.  Either way, it's highly unlikely you're contagious after your paps have returned to normal or you haven't seen warts for 6-24 months.  The majority of people (90%) clear the virus, and those who don't typically have compromised immune systems from AIDS or cancer or something of the sort.  In this man's case reinfection seems to be the culprit- as it would be in most cases where warts appeared in a healthy individual many years later.  I have heard of the correlation between stress/healthy eating, but Dr. HHH doesn't seem to agree with this theory as much, and he is the expert.  Either way though, staying stress free is great for your health in many other regards.  Particularly if this man's wife has an abnormal pap- that points to high risk HPV, which it sounds like he did not have (warts are caused by low risk), unless he had multiple strains.  Still, these just popping up out of nowhere years later seems very rare.