Aa
What a nightmare!
Just returned from Sin city and the idiot that I am hooked up with a girl there. No kissing, protection the whole way, no obvious signs of anything other than being healthy. The incident involved oral/vaginal, both in protected state and not for long. What are the chances of having contracted an STD from this encounter?
Problem is, of course, like so other many guys who slip up I am now home, with my partner sleeping next to me, and am going crazy about what could happen. We usually have unprotected sex a lot and this will be a big problem soon if it won't resume. I knowvI can pull the sick card for awhile...
I know, from doing the reading ( enough to drive anyone insane ) its too early to test and that it seems to be that my chances of anything being wrong are comparatively low. The guilt isn't a problem, though it's made me realize a lot in such a short space of time.
Apart from feeling super guilty, I'm a man I can live with it, what are my chances of getting away with this without my partner ever needing to know as it would be over between us if it ever came out.
Please let me know ASAP..
Best,
A big idiot
Problem is, of course, like so other many guys who slip up I am now home, with my partner sleeping next to me, and am going crazy about what could happen. We usually have unprotected sex a lot and this will be a big problem soon if it won't resume. I knowvI can pull the sick card for awhile...
I know, from doing the reading ( enough to drive anyone insane ) its too early to test and that it seems to be that my chances of anything being wrong are comparatively low. The guilt isn't a problem, though it's made me realize a lot in such a short space of time.
Apart from feeling super guilty, I'm a man I can live with it, what are my chances of getting away with this without my partner ever needing to know as it would be over between us if it ever came out.
Please let me know ASAP..
Best,
A big idiot
Just a quick note.
Realized that it's Definately in my head as I'm sleeping for 6-8hrs without needing to go relieve myself.
God I'm an idiot!
Peace out & the community here is fantastic!
Realized that it's Definately in my head as I'm sleeping for 6-8hrs without needing to go relieve myself.
God I'm an idiot!
Peace out & the community here is fantastic!
Hi,
I appreciate your smart words and after hitting myself in the head several times I hope that will control my hypochondria
Best,
Bigidiot
I appreciate your smart words and after hitting myself in the head several times I hope that will control my hypochondria
Best,
Bigidiot
Hello
I am putting this calmly. You need to clam down. I wouldn't say this if I didn't mean it. You are going to be okay. Seriously. :)
A test for Gon/Chlym can be taken as early as 3 days post exposure. We recommend waiting a week if you can. I say go take the test for Gono/Chlamydia today. Again, as you know you don't need those test, but merely I think seeing a negative test will ease your mind.
I hope with that you can forget about this whole thing and concentrate on your relationship.
I am putting this calmly. You need to clam down. I wouldn't say this if I didn't mean it. You are going to be okay. Seriously. :)
A test for Gon/Chlym can be taken as early as 3 days post exposure. We recommend waiting a week if you can. I say go take the test for Gono/Chlamydia today. Again, as you know you don't need those test, but merely I think seeing a negative test will ease your mind.
I hope with that you can forget about this whole thing and concentrate on your relationship.
I know I'm being total hypochondriac but I am still having to hit the head way too frequently, in comparison to the past ( pre-stupidity that tarted this whole nightmare! ).
I know my mind is playing tricks on me but IF I was stupid enough to have contracted Gon/Chlym, despite all th wonderful advice to the contrary, wht are the incubation times, I'm 5 days post incident but this has been going on since day 1 and have dry mouth, scratchy throat still.
I know this is just in my head isn't it!
I know my mind is playing tricks on me but IF I was stupid enough to have contracted Gon/Chlym, despite all th wonderful advice to the contrary, wht are the incubation times, I'm 5 days post incident but this has been going on since day 1 and have dry mouth, scratchy throat still.
I know this is just in my head isn't it!
Hi andlim,
I really appreciate all your comments and support. The community here is very supportive and after having Dr HH answer my question my mind I Definately feels more at ease than yesterday. I'm of course now running warm, can't tell if it's the end of a sunburn or if I'm getting sick. I still am going to the head a lot, though I might drunk so much I poisoned myself and as a result my system will take days to balance out and the worry of urinating frequently isn't as concerning as it was yesterday. Cause I'm thinking about it so much is most likely the real cause, anxiety as Dr HH said, so that's somewhat reassuring.
The most idiotic thing I've realized with this is that having had previous one nighters, always with protection, I've never been concerned about it. I think just the whole possibility of anything, and my partner finding out, is what has turns me into such a nervous wreck.
In your opinion do you think I'm ok to take Advil/ibuprofen to counter my headache/warm feeling?
I really appreciate all your comments and support. The community here is very supportive and after having Dr HH answer my question my mind I Definately feels more at ease than yesterday. I'm of course now running warm, can't tell if it's the end of a sunburn or if I'm getting sick. I still am going to the head a lot, though I might drunk so much I poisoned myself and as a result my system will take days to balance out and the worry of urinating frequently isn't as concerning as it was yesterday. Cause I'm thinking about it so much is most likely the real cause, anxiety as Dr HH said, so that's somewhat reassuring.
The most idiotic thing I've realized with this is that having had previous one nighters, always with protection, I've never been concerned about it. I think just the whole possibility of anything, and my partner finding out, is what has turns me into such a nervous wreck.
In your opinion do you think I'm ok to take Advil/ibuprofen to counter my headache/warm feeling?
Hi Justabigidiot,
I saw you have posted in Expert Forum as well. Great! Dr. Handsfield or Dr. Hook will tell you that you do not have any risks from your exposure. Like I have mentioned, protected sex means protected from STDs and HIV.
Frequency to toilet could be due to your frequent liquid intake.
If you choose to test, you can test for HIV. Get a DUO Test at 4 weeks, or normal antibody test at 6 weeks. Other STDs that you test if you want would be Gonorrhea and Chlamydia 1 week after exposure. Syphilis is 6 weeks after exposure. But, honestly, your exposure does not need to be tested. However, STD screening from time to time for any sexually active person is always good.
Now, I think your biggest problem is your guilt. And for that, there's no medicine. I do not know about your relationship. However, I can only tell honesty in a relationship is very important. Do not confuse test result with guilt. Most of the time, even after you have got the test result with everything negative, the guilt will be still lingering. I'm not asking you to admit your mistakes to your partner. Only you can judge.
You have did a mistake and you are feeling terrible because of that. Only 2 things you can do. Eat it and move on and hide this forever, if you can. Else, come clean. The consequences might not be as bad. Again, only you can judge. That's all I can tell on personal basis.
I saw you have posted in Expert Forum as well. Great! Dr. Handsfield or Dr. Hook will tell you that you do not have any risks from your exposure. Like I have mentioned, protected sex means protected from STDs and HIV.
Frequency to toilet could be due to your frequent liquid intake.
If you choose to test, you can test for HIV. Get a DUO Test at 4 weeks, or normal antibody test at 6 weeks. Other STDs that you test if you want would be Gonorrhea and Chlamydia 1 week after exposure. Syphilis is 6 weeks after exposure. But, honestly, your exposure does not need to be tested. However, STD screening from time to time for any sexually active person is always good.
Now, I think your biggest problem is your guilt. And for that, there's no medicine. I do not know about your relationship. However, I can only tell honesty in a relationship is very important. Do not confuse test result with guilt. Most of the time, even after you have got the test result with everything negative, the guilt will be still lingering. I'm not asking you to admit your mistakes to your partner. Only you can judge.
You have did a mistake and you are feeling terrible because of that. Only 2 things you can do. Eat it and move on and hide this forever, if you can. Else, come clean. The consequences might not be as bad. Again, only you can judge. That's all I can tell on personal basis.
On the update I seem to be hitting the bathroom a lot today. Doesn't hurt and is totally clear.
This is just anxiety right?
This is just anxiety right?
If you think you can't wait 3 weeks, I would probably wait an absolute minimum of 5 days. Hopefully someone with more medical experience than I have will reply. Reason is some of the tests will not be effective. You could still be infected and just haven't given the body enough time to produce antibodies, or so I have read. Again, I am not an expert. Just regurgitating what I have read. I'm kinda like you and have inundated myself with crap on the internet. I'll be honest man, I think if my wife found out, I would end my life! I'm serious. It's that bad with me. I just want to say this in closing. Man, you don't get many second chances. Best of luck.
I don't know what to do. I can't tell her, it will end us, but I know that holding out sex for 3wks isn't likely either without her pretty much figuring out something is seriously wrong. I feel like 3minutes has cost me everything in life I hold dear and that the uncertainty of it all is crushing me.
On a different note, is 3wks the recommended time to physically wait to the testing or would anything show in my system already, despite the fact that it's been less than 2 days?
Realistically, I've had one nighters before with protection and come out never thinking twice about it. Is it just cause I have my partner to think about that is causing me to freak out so much about this?
On a different note, is 3wks the recommended time to physically wait to the testing or would anything show in my system already, despite the fact that it's been less than 2 days?
Realistically, I've had one nighters before with protection and come out never thinking twice about it. Is it just cause I have my partner to think about that is causing me to freak out so much about this?
Thanks for reading my post. Disclaimer: I a am not a medical professional. This is one bloke to another here. If I were you, I would wait a minimum of 3 weeks to get tested esp if you do not have any signs and symptoms, but only you can make that choice. My prob. is to test for what I need testing for (trich), they don't do that at the free clinics. If you have a .00001% chance you think you have something, stay away from your gf / wife. Tell her you are ill or something. Let's both of us learn from our huge mistakes! Get down on your knees and thank God every day for another chance!
I just read your post bro. Wow, I am totally feeling your pain and being in the same boat it's really really hard to know what to do. I've already done the research to find a place to go for the test, it's of all places 3 blocks from my office, and I can just pay the fee no questions asked.
Should i do it? Im currently really dehydrated, so I can't say I have any symptoms, would they show this early as technically the incident happened about 32hrs ago....
Should i do it? Im currently really dehydrated, so I can't say I have any symptoms, would they show this early as technically the incident happened about 32hrs ago....
I can totally relate. I posted right before you did. Maybe mine was to horrific or long because I noticed you have had a lot of response already. I am exactly in your same shoes, except I have symptoms of what I have self diagnosed as trich, but my doc says prostate infection. I am about to lose it.
Hi,
It was the last of the box, I'm sure it's just incredible paranoia, especially having sat in a conference with lots of people with colds/coughs.
In regards to testing, if I can't get it out of my mind, how long should I wait to get tested or should i go to a walkin clinic today and get it done and out of the way??
It was the last of the box, I'm sure it's just incredible paranoia, especially having sat in a conference with lots of people with colds/coughs.
In regards to testing, if I can't get it out of my mind, how long should I wait to get tested or should i go to a walkin clinic today and get it done and out of the way??
Hi,
It's always not recommended to self threat, especially with antibiotics. As you probably have known, antibiotics are given in course that you need to complete. Incomplete courses will develop drugs-resistance.
You are just feeling guilty. Go see your doctor regarding your sore throat for proper treatment.
It's always not recommended to self threat, especially with antibiotics. As you probably have known, antibiotics are given in course that you need to complete. Incomplete courses will develop drugs-resistance.
You are just feeling guilty. Go see your doctor regarding your sore throat for proper treatment.
Hi andlim,
I'm feeling pretty miserable you're spot on with that, though the hangover is slowly going, I know the guilt will take longer to deal with.
The more I replay it I can't imagine anyone who was as well put together as this lady was carrying any real risk. I just am disgusted with myself for endangering my life & my partners through a cheap drunken thrill that was as meaningless as a piece of dirt on the street.
I've learned my lesson and this being the first time I know I'll never do anything so remotely stupid ever again.
On a side note, I do have sore throat/parched lips this morning and after looking to see what drugs I have left over I've popped some doxycycline. I'm just being paranoid and super guilty right?
I'm feeling pretty miserable you're spot on with that, though the hangover is slowly going, I know the guilt will take longer to deal with.
The more I replay it I can't imagine anyone who was as well put together as this lady was carrying any real risk. I just am disgusted with myself for endangering my life & my partners through a cheap drunken thrill that was as meaningless as a piece of dirt on the street.
I've learned my lesson and this being the first time I know I'll never do anything so remotely stupid ever again.
On a side note, I do have sore throat/parched lips this morning and after looking to see what drugs I have left over I've popped some doxycycline. I'm just being paranoid and super guilty right?
Hi Justabigidiot,
From your nickname, I can sense how miserable you are feeling now. However, do not confuse risk and guilt. From what you have told us, protected sex, both oral and vaginal carries no risk of HIV and most of the STDs.
Just one personal advice though, I can sense that you love your partner dearly. It's not worth to cheat on her just to get some adventures.
Stay well. Take care.
From your nickname, I can sense how miserable you are feeling now. However, do not confuse risk and guilt. From what you have told us, protected sex, both oral and vaginal carries no risk of HIV and most of the STDs.
Just one personal advice though, I can sense that you love your partner dearly. It's not worth to cheat on her just to get some adventures.
Stay well. Take care.
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