Whats wrong with me?!

[dontwannasay]

ok so i dated this 19year old girl for about a month in college and we never had sex, all we did around the end of the month was fingering and a handjob, and kissing of course. She only had sex once with this other dude who she said they were in love and they both deeply cared and loved each other. and she said they were both virgins. And for some reason I'm getting paranoid that theres a super little chance of STDs. Its bothering the **** outta me, I'm like thinking so even though if she did have, fingering (i m pretty sure i didn't ahve a cut or else it woulda hurt when i washed my hands right) then i left my hands while talking for about 20min then i washed it thoroughly with liquid soap and like I brushed my teeth and i may have wiped off the water on my mouth with the non-palm side( i know it wasnt the palm side) so if I washed it thoroughly after 20minutes there should be absolutely no way that I would get anything at all even if she did have anything right?? Casue like the soap would kill everything? And i got this other paranoid feeling well what if that other dude lied due to be afraid or something even though they r in love?? Please give me very detailed answers for the fingering soap part and please help with the other dude thingie too cause I think I'm just turning mentally insane! O btw also I had no signs of stds at all, just cause i heard HIV doesn't show signs for years thats one of the major reasons im paranoid.

[PinPinPatrick]

If you're so worried about std's, you should both get tested together.  You will feel much better and that will ease your anxiety.  That's how monogamous sexual relationships should start anyways.

[dontwannasay]

so if u get checked about a little over a month, it would tell me everything about every std accurately right?

[PinPinPatrick]

yes, get tested... you're so young, you're not likely to have any serious std's.

[dontwannasay]

but i heard something about that it can test negative when positive during the first few months, can u please xplain this??

[Vance2335]

You had no risk to get a STD from what you did. PinPinPatrick is right in saying getting tested if you have had unprotected sex is a good idea, but you had no risk from the exposure you posted.

[dontwannasay]

so even constant deep kissing is ok?

[dontwannasay]

but i heard something about that it can test negative when positive during the first few months, can u please xplain this??

and please this still wasn't explained.

[dontwannasay]

I also heard that HIV was really hard to get, so does that mean even if a HIV+ person do it with a non-positive unprotectedly, theres still a chance of not getting it? ( I mean i didnt have sex ever but for the sake of feeling better)

[Vance2335]

Kissing is fine no matter what type of kiss.
Yes each STD has a window period where if you test before a specific time frame you can be negative but still have the STD.

All HIV questions need to be posted in the HIV commuity. But I will tell you that I would not say it is hard to get but the chance is on your side from an unprotected encounter. But we always say that it only takes 1 time so use condoms.

[dontwannasay]

so i had no risk because if there were any stds on my finger, it woulda died like 5 minutes after fingering and I washed my hands 20min later so its even better and there would be nothing at all right?

[dontwannasay]

o how long the window period for stds

[Vance2335]

You had no risk because STD are not passed by masterbation (masturbation). The only way to get a STD to unprotected vaginal or anal sex and unprotected oral sex (but oral sex is low risk).

Each STD has a different window period. Gonorrhea and Chlymida-1 week, Syphilis-6 weeks, HIV-3 months and Herpes-4 months

[dontwannasay]

so u wont get it from deep kissing because theres way too low saliva concentration? like I heard u need a gallon worth??

[Vance2335]

i already answred the kissing question.

[dontwannasay]

no i mean like specifically why any type of kissing is fine, like in details, as in if theres too little saliva to affect anyone.

[dontwannasay]

it doesnt matter how much saliva goes in the kissing and how long it is?? please explain in addition to my previous post, thanks!

[Vance2335]

Saliva does nto transmit STD's. Someone could spit in your mouth for 5 days and it is not a risk for a STD.

[dontwannasay]

i heard there was only one case that people had HIV from deep kissing cause their mouth was bleeding. So thats a possible factor?

[Vance2335]

All HIV questions need to be posted in the HIV community, see the link above.

I can't go any further with you because no matter what I say you are coming up with new questions but they are the same question.

[dontwannasay]

sorry but this is really my last question, promise i won't ask after this.