Worried about oral sex and herpes

I see no cause for serious concern.  Neither herpes nor any other infection can cause symptoms less than a day after exposure; anything that quick has to be due to trauma or direct irritation of some kind, and that also fits with the apparent vigor of the oral sex event.  Also, oral herpes (HSV-1) has much less asymptomatic viral shedding than genital herpes due to HSV-2. That means that oral herpes rarely is transmitted unless there is an overt herpes outbreak.  So if your stripper friend didn't have a visible oral herpes episode, your risk was very low.  On top of all that, if any visible "abnormality" is so subtle that you're not even sure it's abnormal at all, then probably it is not.  Your anxieties probably are inflating your self assessment of your symptoms.

That said, it's always wise to see a health care provider for unexplained symptoms.  But when you see your doc, don't insist on HSV testing unless s/he comes to that conclusion without your prompting.  In particular it makes no sense to be tested for HSV unless there are overt sores to test for the virus, which obviously there are not.  And it takes several weeks for the blood test to become positive.

Finally, you should call your friend and ask if she has oral herpes.  If she does not, the risk is even lower.

Bottom line:  Follow your own plan to see your doctor if your symptoms persist or you remain concerned.  But I very much doubt you have herpes or any other STD.

Best wishes--  HHH, MD