In people with positive HSV-1 results, like you, mid-level HSV-2 results often are falsely positive. That is, when the HSV-2 ELISA ratio is positive above 1.0 but below 3.5, there is about a 50% chance each that the person does or does not have HSV-2.
Since you haven't had clear clinical evidence of genital herpes--I agree the symptoms you describe don't necessarily mean herpes in either you or your boyfriend--most likely you don't have HSV-2. However, it simply isn't possible to know for certain based on the currently available information. There are 3 approaches to sorting it out:
1) Your bf could have a blood test. Assuming he is your only partner over the past year, he would have to be the source of any HSV-2 infection (because your result was definitely negative last May). So if his test is negative for HSV-2, that would effectively rule it out for you. If positive, it would likely mean that you are infected as well.
2) You can have repeat HSV-2 testing by an entirely different method, such as the Kalon test (available in the UK, not yet widely available in the US); the BiokitUSA test, which is available; or a Western blot test, the gold standard. WB is available only at the University of Washington in Seattle, but your local lab will know how to refer a specimen for testing. The main drawback of WB is that it is expensive (I think around $150, plus whatever handling fees come from your doc's office or the local lab) and might not be covered by insurance.
3) You can wait for new abrasion-like symptoms or other symptoms of herpes and see your NP or other provider immediately, within 1-2 days of onset, for a culture or PCR test for HSV-2.
These three approaches are not mutually exclusive. If the cost isn't too big a deal for you, I suggest your bf get tested and you have blood sent for Western blot.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
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