freaking out !

[lil_me74]

Ive recently been diagnosed with HPV (warts) they came and I had them burnt over and over again,(5months ago) Im extremly clean - now Im having another small break out, my doctor advised me to stop shaving cause im spreading it, but its the only way I can tell im having a break out. What do you sugest ? waxing is suppose to be more dangerous.

I am in a new relationship and we had sex and oral 2 days before I noticed 3 small warts starting 1) did I infect him? and 2) how do I tell him with out freaking out and thinking im this bad dirty person.? how many days should we not have sex after they have been burnt/frooze ? 3) Is this the way my life is going to be forever ? on and off with break outs? this is so embarressing !!!

feeling low dirty and ashamed !
and I hate lying to him in the midst of passion on why we can't right now.


This discussion is related to HPV - very worried.

[2terrified]

Well, ethically, you should have told him.  But I understand completely why you haven't.  I hadn't been completely honest with my partners either.  Usually, HPV clears itself up.  I was fortunate not to have had any visible warts except for once if I think back.  But I have some info that may help.

When I was pregnant, the midwife who treated me told me to take folic acid.  Folic Acid is good for getting HPV under control.  And you know what?  I have not had a problem since.  You can get folic acid otc and/or eat lots of leafy green veggies.  Be careful not to exceed 1000mg per day (supplement).  Hope this helps

[MoldyOldy]

You people REALLY need to step up to the plate and be honest with your partners.  To the OP, if you lose the guy, then he really isn't that into you anyway.  If you love each other, you'll work out the details.  

Just tell him already and stop spreading the infection!

(Tough love, but you need to step up here and be responsible)

[2terrified]

Not everyone is as understanding about these things no matter how much they love a person.  I'm not condoning it.  I'm being sympathetic to why.  Society automatically attaches promiscuity to std's.   And when you are the one embarrassed because you got something, it is for this reason that it is not so easy to be forth coming.  I know I am going to make every effort to disclose this information to my next partner, when ever that time comes but don't judge.  What is easy for some is not so easy for others.

[lil_me74]

Thank You 2terrified - you couldnt of said it any better and yes moldyoldy I agree ! but I should explain myself a little, I honestly thought once I cleared up last time, I was done, clean. It wasnt until I just recently broke out "again" and research some more and came upon this site, boy am I glad I did. The first chance I spend some time with him - Im gonna take a deep breath and spell the beans, I just hope he is understanding and I am even going to recomend this site for him to research more on.

This is just so confusing- Im 34 -was married for 12 yrs and never ever thought I would be dealing with this -ever ! Ive always thought I chose my sexual partners well, I let my guard down after time and didnt use a condom and he had no scars or signs of anything !

I am glad I chose to have my oldest daughter vacinated !

wish me luck and if he really likes me -he'll understand.