This question is in the wrong forum; see the statement at the top of the page. The quick answer is that HIV is never transmitted by handjobs and oral sex is virtually zero risk. Read the HIV Prevention forum for more discussion. But I suggest you not spend another $15 to re-post your question there; the answer would be the same and in any case the identical questions have been asked and answered hundreds of times.
Because it's the wrong forum, it won't be possible to have any ongoing discussion. Sorry.
HHH, MD