partner has herpes, and we are super careful whenever we are together, but I'm wondering about my other partners. Do I have to tell them about this partner or is there little risk to a third person so I can protect the privacy of my primary
? Your risk of contracting the virus is fairly small so personally I don't think it's necessary to tell all your other partners unless you contract it. Do you get tested periodically to see what your herpes status is?
, this must be why herpes is such an epidemic. She could have it and unknowingly give it to other people. It's their own fault I guess because they are sleeping around too. When you do that, expect to get herpes.