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herpes? yeast? prostate issue?


I recently had oral sex from my girl friend of eight months. this is our first sexual experience. i later got some marks on my penis which a doctor diagnosed as a red **** from vigorous oral sex. possible skin irritation but nothing to be alarmed about but it has been persistent. my symptoms include:

- frequent urination at night
- not fully done peeing but it stops or not full urination
- redness; small red spots but i was told it was discoloration not herpes
- flaky skin on penis head
- muscle pain
- neck pain, almost like it is swollen
- groin pain - testicles & pelvis area
- clear discharge that sticks to my boxers almost like pre *** but is very little
- pain in penis that shifts sometimes left or right?
- other

i have been given different prognosis. its been persister over a month. my girlfriend has gotten checked out & had no prior infections. says things came back negative but i am skeptical. i know she has had cold sores before. i did however notice nothing to prevent me from allowing her to perform oral sex. i would love to get closure. i have yet to see a specialist. my GP wont give me a referral and stated a little discharge of semen is normal. my girlfriend has been faithful too my knowledge. i am a little worried now. its carried on over a month. the penis burning is uncomfortable. a doctor checked my prostate and says it is enlarged which could cause penis pain around the tip. a burning sensation though normal? what does this sound like? i got some cream for a yeast infection & fucidin. any help would be appreciated. i am looking into a referral for a specialist as this has been awhile. all tests including multiple swabs, urine, and physical examinations came back negative. i never had a herpes test though. only examinations and a couple of those at that. any help is appreciated. i haven't had puss, blisters, or itching. i notice with cream on i may get the odd itch but nothing out of the ordinary. thanks.
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207091 tn?1337709493
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I won't argue with your beliefs, but you are a young man and sexual thoughts are totally normal.  There is nothing wrong with thoughts, ok?  I bet your priest will even tell you that.  

:)

Aj

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thanks again Jess.

so, i seen a doctor who mentioned pearly papuoles as possible virus. she said what i have is nothing to worry about. said its the common pearly papuoles whereas some men get a virus which causes a unpleasant infection.

i am pleased to have had you and many other's helpful advise. i gotta take responsibility for my actions over the past 7+ months. i think i made things that much worse for myself. i really lost control and a doctor said i was suffering from OSSD depression. i read up stats of depression in young people today and the numbers are so high within many late teens and early twenty year olds. the number of medically prescribed anti-depressants and other pills is incredible.

so, i told myself i wasn't going too have sex again till i am married but who am i kidding? i am fighting against the inevitable. i went to church the other day and acknowledged a cute girl there checking me out. i then fanatsized about being with her sexually which then brought on a on slought of guilt. i am planning on talking to my local church priest. i don't know what to do from here but think twice about my actions. i am so thankful for the help i have gotten here from everyone (especially Jess & Daisy).

i know there is not full proof means of not catching an std aside from abstinence. i know i decrease the chances by wearing a condom. in a loving, trusting, healthy relationship, is it not problematic though if a guy refuses to have intercourse without a condom? i been refusing sexual activity. i guess i just didn't know the numbers of cases. everyone believes it wont happen too me until it does. i just found out about a close female friend age 19 who has hpv. i just found out the other day another close female friend caught a terrible strain of hpv that likely causes cervical cancer or has a extremely high probability of doing so. this was her first partner. i feel sick and want to help. i had trust issues before this but i mean, this is even worse.

aside from condoms, being in a monogomous relationship, what else should be done? i think manditory before having sex, i should make sure my partner and i are checked out for std. is it wrong or selfish? helpful advise is good. i am back to having my life but i still hold onto this because i don't wanna be like most people who get a second chance but go back to their old ways. i refuse. my plan is to wait but if i don't, take all the precautions possible. thanks again. any advise is appreciated. :) cheers Jess & Daisy!
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207091 tn?1337709493
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Since you tend to get very worried abut things, then yes, I would get this checked out.  Its probably nothing, but it never hurts to get checked.

Aj
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again, i want to thank everyone for being more then helpful. i been away and off the site for sometime. i been looking for employment which i found. at the sametime, i noticed some white spot on my penis. i think it could be just pearly papuoles. i been free of this for awhile now since i got clearance from a specialist. my concern was herpes and prostatitis at the time. in the past, a doctor said it could be hpv, one said penile worts, and others said pearly papuoles. i start this job tomorrow. i don't want to go back to where i was before. do i need to check this out or can i move on with my life? i haven't had an errection in so long. since the positive advise & feed back from the specialist, i was positively moving forward with my life. i don't want to start this all over again however, i don't want a situation to get worse. can i move on with my life or should i do a precautionary check up? thanks again for everything in advance.
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207091 tn?1337709493
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If you think you have info that can help people, then by all means, answer some posts.  We do try to not get into religious aspects, so while that is important to you, it would be helpful to just address the physical questions.

Everyone has different beliefs about sex before marriage, and I think its important to remember that sexuality is a natural part of us, and we just need to find ways to express it that don't make us feel badly.  If that's waiting until marriage for you, then that's a good thing.  

Aj
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thanks Jess. he has said things seem better so i suppose he should be alright. he was freaking out as was i before. i appreciate all the help. even though i am not a doctor, if i were to see situations on here which resembled my issue, is it alright to give advise? i mean, it could be far from my situation but i think even the slightest temporary relief from temporary insanity is great. i think suggesting a doctor is always the best. Jessi? what field medically are you in if you don't mind me asking? you truly are a good person. i been going mad this past almost 5months. since seeing Doc Gibson, my specialist, i have been much better. i may in fact see him again. he did say something unusual, he mentioned that men can get the odd discomfort in the penis which in fact can resort from paying to much attention. i acknowledge the fact that its not the most painful feeling i have ever experienced but it is unusual till oral sex. i suppose focusing on it is bad. my friend noticed red marks since sex. i told him that it likely is from vigorous sex. said it cleared up so i hope he is okay. i can't believe how many people are so ignorant but are sexually active. i myself am and shouldn't be active not knowing the risks out there prior to this. there is still much i am unaware of. if i ever win the lottery, i promise to look both you & Grace up. i can't stress enough the level of relief you both brought. i am so graceful. i been going to church regularly since. honestly, the oral sex was extremely pleasurable but not worth the stress, anxiety, and hell i went through. one doctor i met, he was a strict rekigious doctor who just told me that pre-marital sex isn't for me. i learned my lesson to move on. my father however said that i am a man and i typically will engage in activity again. i suppose just being safe and a clean partner. i don't want to be ignorant again. little nervous as for how to go about the future. i am a good looking guy, early twenties, in good shape, and i get passes from the girls regularly. i feel so guilty being religious and being enticed by the girls but i am only human. i never want to be stupid again till marriage. not worth it. i really again appreciate everything.
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207091 tn?1337709493
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Oral hpv is considered rare.  In all my time (15 years) in this field, I haven't seen a case of it.  If he is concerned, then he should see a doctor.

Aj
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http://www.dph.sf.ca.us/sfcityclinic/stdbasics/stdchart.asp

how probable is HPV from Oral sex? Q: a friend just started wigging out and he spoke with me. i told him to go get checked out. it could be likely from vigorous sex however he just said oral sex. its weird too cause so much **** can happen from some of the most innocent of actions. being Christian, i think i guilt tripped myself into a lot worse of things. they were checking me for cancer and other non-sense which made matters worse. as for doctors, i know there human however, they missed Cancer with a friend. its horrible so i guess getting multiple opinions is intelligent. thanks for everything and any additional advise for my friend. i told him to go to a walk in clinic if he is ashamed to see his family doctor but recommended his family doctor. hopefully he is alright.
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You can contact medhelp and they can remove your account and all your posts if you'd like.

grace
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Thanks so much for everything. next Q: is there anything more i can do in regards to privacy? ways in changing usernames but keeping my account etc.? i just want to best mask this. i would never want this personal information to leak out into the public despite having been cleared of all things. thanks again for everything.
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207091 tn?1337709493
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Lumps can be many things, from normal to cancer.  Your doctor should see this.  Don't ever assume a doctor will notice things.  Some things that seem HUGE to you are very small, and might be missed during an exam.

I have even gotten a mirror and showed my doc exactly what spot I am talking about.  Don't hesitate to do that.

But I am glad you are feeling better, and are starting to enjoy things again.  :)

Aj
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to everyone that has commented here the past 3 + months at any point and time who have brought me peace of mind at one time or another, i would like to thank you. i seen my specialist, a urologist. he assured me it wasn't herpes and did a check on my prostate. he doesn't believe it is prostititus but he told me to finish my pills. i am on my last refill with maybe a week or so left. i am to follow through on that, they did some tests and will be in touch with me if anything is up. i was told to contact him if necessary. i celebrated a friend's birthday this weekend and went camping. i had a good time for the first time in ages. again, i am appreciative to everyone. i just had a Q: under the penis, i have a sorta lump. now, i know each males have different sorts of groves and or bumps for female pleasure during intercourse. my Q: is: how do they differ between that and cancer? also, if your physically examined, would they notice it right away? i just noticed some pain there. i wonder if it could be the combination of the excessive examinations, nerves, medication, and other. i was also urinating while camping so i am sure it could be the reason. again, thanks to everyone that helped me through a dark time. all the best.
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thanks again. i'll get checked out if i blackout again. thanks for everything.
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207091 tn?1337709493
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It sounds like your friend has HPV.  Right now, she probably has an abnormal pap smear.  Yes, these are sometimes called pre-cancerous, but very rarely does this turn into cancer.  Obviously, the doctors aren't too concerned, or they wouldn't be having her wait 6 months to test again.

This is VERY common.  80% of people will have HPV in their lifetimes.  I am sure she is a little scared, but she is going to be just fine, and there is nothing to worry about right now.

You don't have herpes, ok?  

Aj
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Hey, let it go man.  Take it easy.  believe me, genital herpes is VERY easy to detect just by looking at it.  Essentially any doctor will be ablke to tell clearly if it is herpes.  herpes has a very distinctive characteristic about it.  What may be more difficult is that if it NOT herpes, they may have more difficulty and need to run more tests to determine exactly what it is.  But, if it were herpes, they (any of them) would no it.  If you have had one, two now even three doctors say it isn't herpes, believe them.  It isn't herpes.  Put yourself at ease, get out from under the undue stress and relax about it.

By the way, jock itch (rash) can be a real bear to get rid of.  

Words of experience on both accounts above man.  

All the best.
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thank you Jessi & Grace + others. i have bothered the medical staff for awhile and i am thankful how supportive and helpful people have been. i spoke with my ex today. i just got news today of my best friend's sister coming down with cancer. it was misdiagnosed by a doctor a year ago. a new bump was taking out which wasn't cancerous however, the cells around it were. any way, the girl, my ex told me she got called back for her pap test that the cells scanned needed to be scanned again that she may have cancer. then she says they will do another one in 6months. this is a prime reason why i have trouble keeping my sanity with her. if someone had cancer they would get them help not check for something later and she went onto say she could have it. frig i am so annoyed i ever got involved with her. a sweet girl but a mistake non the less.

Jessi, Grace, anyone, what is the likeliness of the specialist contradicting these past doctors diagnosis? i have heard some on here and it concerns me. i just want my life back you know? i am entirely putting my faith in God and saying my prayers. the sad part is i haven't had sex yet and the truth is that i may have something ever before i ever do. i'll keep reinforcing positivity that i have recieved from you and the doctors that it is prostiatitis and jock itch, nothing else. any way, thank you so much. do you suggest i get checked for this blackout? i haven't had it again but i have had the faint feeling once more without the falling. thoughts? thanks.
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If you pass out again, please get seen for that.  People don't pass out for no reason.

In the meantime, good luck to you.

Aj
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i am trying to relax. i was at church on Sunday and i said i had enough with all this non-sense. i just want to get better and i got to pull myself out of this. i was losing it on saturday. i went entirely the whole night without sleep. they think i have an anxiety disorder which i want to take control of before this thing gets out of control. i have a limited sex drive. i have also noticed myself blacking out lately. i went to the washroom at my best female friend's house. i tried to use her washroom. when i failed to go i went to stand up and i went light headed. my leg buckled and i fell against what i thought was a wall but was really a door. i blacked out. i felt someone poking me. i just gasped for a breathe. i find my best female friend standing over me giving me water. she helps me up and i then notice my pants and stuff down. i haven't ever been more embarrassed in life.

i don't know what the **** is wrong with me. i hate this. i don't wanna see any more doctors though. i have seen enough. i think it may have to do with low iron level and the combo of stress/anxiety as i have my appointment with the specialist. i am fearful of getting contradicting news from the specialist. i just want to tell you i appreciate you help. i mean, this doesn't do anything for your life. i had enough of this. i am taking control. moving on with my life. i thank you again.
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You don't have herpes.  If it makes you feel better, ask for a herpes blood test.

You don't have it, though.  None of your symptoms are similar to herpes.

AJ
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so i got a Q:
i got my specialist, a urologist middle this month less then two weeks now. i am terrified. my Q: is, if i was told by multiple doctors its not herpes based upon visual examinations including hospital, family GP, and walk in, what is the likeliness a specialist with additive knowledge can and will likely contradict what they said? i been diagnosed as prostitis but by a walkin clinic doctor and jock itch based upon the rash which is bettering. no puss or feaver blisters. the only flu like symptoms i have had is the runs which could be based upon poor dieting likely cause of my state of mind and current health. i haven't had pain in a bit and don't want to hold my breathe. i just realize how great i once had it and i want my old life back. i am twenty two years old. i want to date, i want to experience love and more. i have no intentions on having premarital or any sorta of sexual conduct again till marriage following my Christian faith. i haven't had sex but i think after having the oral sex i really guilt tripped myself likely making this experience that much worse. again, i thank Grace, Jessi, and anyone that advises me past or present. thanks.
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skin rash

Less common

Aching of joints and muscles; difficulty in swallowing; pale skin; redness, blistering, peeling; sore throat and fever; unusual tiredness or weakness;

Rare

Abdominal or stomach cramps and pain (severe); abdominal or stomach tenderness; anxiety; confusion; difficult breathing; drowsiness; fever; general feeling of illness, hallucinations; increased thirst; muscle pain or weakness; nausea; nervousness; stiff neck and/back;
Increased sensitivity of skin to sunlight, dizziness; headache; loss of appetite; mouth sores or swelling of the tongue; nausea or vomiting; tiredness

couple nights ago i went for a walk through the park at about 12:30am. everyone in my home was sleeping. it was a clear night. i love stars and thought i would take a walk. i laid back on the bleachers listening to the ipod to clear my mind stargazing. in regards to haullucinations, before someone decides to throw a net over me and take me away, i kept seeing something or someone out the corner of my eye which would make me paranoid. i look and nothing is there. i get confussed and relax then it happens again. i realize now its a side effect of the medication. i wont drive. it only happened in the dark i will add and it wasn't severe or a regularity but i thought i would note it. i think i am getting better though and i am really excited about havign my old life back with the renewed appreciation i have for life.
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i am no doctor but i think Grace or Jessi will back that your body slowing down and the prostate is likely at its largest causing the problem we have with frequent urination. i wish i new how this happened. they just told my father the same thing as me when he was in his thirties that his prostate is enlarged and that he should watch it. i am twenty two. i hate this. i just started wearing jeans again and boxers. its not a pleasant experience. i got the penis swab to check for std. it was ******* painful experience. dude, i know where your coming from. restrain from stress. i was wondering if medication can cause random sweating? i keep having sweats when not cold or hot or anything? i wonder if it is a thing due to medication or prostatitis. take Jessi's advise and look up male anatomy in reading about enlarged prostate issues. you'll understand it better. i would love to know how i got this and why this damn rash has been so long. any thoughts is appreciated.
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Yeah it is hard to keep your mind off of it because when you are home and bored if can't help but think about it. I will continue to take my meds and if I don't get better, get a second opinon from a urologist. The funny thing is the symptoms really don't start affecting me until the night time. During the day or at work I seem fine for the most part
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Jess, what were you talking about assistance programs? what for? no medical coverage or? i don't have pain really, slight discomfort at times. two red spots but i mean, they don't hurt to touch. using the lamasil cream and i get better. Jazzman, i believe its consistency in use of the antibiotics. i haven't had frequent urination or rectum pain in some time now which i believe is the medication.  doctors told me that the large prostate is preventing the track of urination to go which leaves us with the not so empty bladder feeling or not so strong urine stream. its not the worst thing that can happen to us both and i much prefer this then herpes. damn straight. quite happy to be getting better. i think the key to it all is keeping occupied with either family or friends and when alone watching tv or movies just to keep your mind off of it. if anyone else has suggestions its appreciated. thanks.
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