when she feels an outbreak comming on , she takes suppressive therapy . her outbreaks are rare maybe about 1 a year , myself have never had an outbreak or been treated or diagnosed .. just a side note as a child my sister had chicken pox, which if i'm not mistaken is a form of herpes ,, i am 30 years old and never had an outbreak nor had chicken pox (wich my parents tried to make sure i got them ) i've never had a cold sore on the lips
Its possible. Get a type specific IgG herpes blood test and find out if you have it. If your wife never had any type specific testing (and its a good bet she didn't), she can also get this test done.
Its possible that she has type 1 genitally, and you have it orally and gave it to her via oral sex