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i want to know if its possible

ok so im reffering to all STD's here, me and my boyfriend are thinking about oral, and we want to know the risks involved, both of us are 100% complete virigins (no messing around or anything of that sort), there have not been any health issues reggarding either one of us, neither of us have had herpes on our mouths, no coldsores or anything, both of his parents and mine do not have HIV....how safe are we to preform unprotected oral sex? we want to actually have a straight answer instead of the mixed replies we have been getting elsewhere, please respond to this.
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You don't mention how old you are or how long you have been in your relationship but I hope that you have thought everything through carefully before you take this big step in your relationship. I'm 25 now and in a previous relationship I had when I was 16, my first serious relationship, my boyfriend of 6 months wanted to keep progressing in our sexual activities a bit faster than I had wanted but I agreed because I thought he loved me as much as I loved him. We started out heavy petting, then he wanted oral and then just "coming" near my vagina. Well, I ended up pregnant at 16 because some of his semen got into my vagina. My parents never believed me first that we did not have full intercourse and I thought we were being safe. My boyfriend flipped out as did his parents and I was made to look like it was my fault, like I was easy, for allowing him to do this. We ended up broke up and I was crushed. I had the baby and although my parents were very supportive, my whole life changed. I couldn't go out to parties and do whatever I wanted anymore because I now had a baby to look after. I missed a part of my school year because I was so sick when I was pregnant so I had to repeat a year of school. I lived in a small place so everyone was talking about me and I could feel their eyes on me everytime  I walked by especially when I started to get bigger and bigger with the baby. And my boyfriend that I loved so much...he was in a new relationship even before the baby was born and started to treat me like dirt. He blamed me and said I made it so easy to get what he wanted as all he had to do was say I love you to me and I believed him so much. Nobody blamed him!!!! He never sees the baby and now my child is growing up without a father. I was alone for a long time afterwards because no one wanted to get involved with someone who had a kid. I did have a few dates that the boy figured I was easy and would have sex right away seeing how I had already done it! I finally am in a serious relationship now with a wonderful man who treats me and my son with respect but I had a lot of lonely days and nights crying myself to sleep because of what happened. Don't get me wrong I love my son but I wished I had waited. If it's true love, you don't pressure anyone to do stuff their not ready for. Have fun in your relationship and don't rush stuff. I'm sorry if I rambled on and on here but I wish someone had told me to slow down back then.
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It is simple.  Both of you are starting pure and unscathed.  So, go for it.  But make sure you use a condom if you are thinking about having vaginal intercourse.  Just because you don't have to worry about std's doesn't mean you won't get pregnant.  You can get pregnant from what they call pre-c*m.

If anything, it would be good to practice 100% safe sex including oral from the get go.  Then you never have to worry.
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