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I have been with the same man for the past 4 years, I have not had any other sexual contact with anyone other than him. We engage in anal, vaginal and oral sex. We recently broke up and he hooked up with another girl. I trust what he says and he told me all they did was he fingered her and she gave him a hand job. After this, we got back together and we messed around, we DID NOT have sex but he did rim me briefly (while self-lubricated) and fingered me and I gave him a hand job as well as oral sex a few times in which I swallowed. After all this happened, the girl he had hooked up with contacted him and told him she had chlamidiya, not from him but from a previous partner and she felt that he should know just because they messed around a little and she knew he was with me. Although he swears that they did not have sex at all, he is still worried that he could've contracted chlamidiya from fingering her and then touching his penis. I am also really afraid that I could have contracted chlamidiya from him because even though we did not have sex, I did perform oral sex and he did rim briefly. I wanted to know what the likelihood of me contracting chlamidiya or any other sexually transmitted disease would be from these encounters? I am a hypochondriac and I am so worried about this, I plan on getting tested as soon as possible but how long should I wait? My boyfriend just got tested and is waiting on the results and the girl says that she got tested for everything and blood tested and was only positive for chlamidiya. I am so scared because I have heard that this girl is promiscuous and I fear that she may have another STD other than this. I always get scared about HIV and herpes and I just get nervous that if she is promiscuous and contracted one STD, that she might have others so I worry that I could have gotten not only chlamidiya but something else from oral sex and other sexual encounters I had with my boyfriend after he was with her.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the STD forum.
Although you have been through a bad patch with your partner, it sounds to me like he is being honest with you. Of course you know him and can judge his truthfulness better than I can -- but if his description of his sexual encounter with the other woman is accurate, there is no realistic chance he caught chlamydia. And certainly there is no chance you are infected. In order for you to have it, 2 different fingering episodes would have both had to result in transmission -- and the odds against that are astronomical.
Having said all that, it would be reasonable for you and your partner be treated for chlamydia. Or you could be tested and wait for the results. Personally, though, I would recommend treatment, just to help settle your fears about it. This doesn't mean I really believe there was a significant chance either he or you is infected. But the drugs are very safe, with few side effects and none likely to be serious.
As for other infections, it is true that various STDs go together. But with the nature of the exposures here, the chance of other STDs aside from the known one (chlamydia) is even lower. Everybody outside a mutually monogamous relationship, and the partners of people who aren't always monogamous, should be tested for HIV and other STDs from time to time, just to be safe. On that basis, this would be a good time for you to be tested for gonorrhea, syphilis, and HIV in addition to chlamydia. (If you do get tested, make sure the tests are done before you take ttreatment for chlamydia.)
Really, don't overreact to this situation. The chance you caught chlamydia or anything else is almost zero. You can expect all your tests to be negative.
Regards-- HHH, MD
Although you have been through a bad patch with your partner, it sounds to me like he is being honest with you. Of course you know him and can judge his truthfulness better than I can -- but if his description of his sexual encounter with the other woman is accurate, there is no realistic chance he caught chlamydia. And certainly there is no chance you are infected. In order for you to have it, 2 different fingering episodes would have both had to result in transmission -- and the odds against that are astronomical.
Having said all that, it would be reasonable for you and your partner be treated for chlamydia. Or you could be tested and wait for the results. Personally, though, I would recommend treatment, just to help settle your fears about it. This doesn't mean I really believe there was a significant chance either he or you is infected. But the drugs are very safe, with few side effects and none likely to be serious.
As for other infections, it is true that various STDs go together. But with the nature of the exposures here, the chance of other STDs aside from the known one (chlamydia) is even lower. Everybody outside a mutually monogamous relationship, and the partners of people who aren't always monogamous, should be tested for HIV and other STDs from time to time, just to be safe. On that basis, this would be a good time for you to be tested for gonorrhea, syphilis, and HIV in addition to chlamydia. (If you do get tested, make sure the tests are done before you take ttreatment for chlamydia.)
Really, don't overreact to this situation. The chance you caught chlamydia or anything else is almost zero. You can expect all your tests to be negative.
Regards-- HHH, MD
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
It is very rare for someone with longstanding infection with either HSV type to catch a new infection with the same type, or to transmit their own infection to a different part of the body (auto-inoculation). You are immune, or at least highly resistant, to a new HSV-1 infection anywhere on your body and to autoinoculation of your infection to another area of your body.
I hope the forum has helped you, but we have gone as far as we can; this will be my last comment on this thread. You're going to have to work to get beyond your somewhat irrational fears of STD/HIV in this situation. Deal with the relationship issues as you need to, but once the chlamydia issue is resolved -- you are tested and negative, and/or you have been treated -- you can disregard any health consequences. Believe it and move on.
I hope the forum has helped you, but we have gone as far as we can; this will be my last comment on this thread. You're going to have to work to get beyond your somewhat irrational fears of STD/HIV in this situation. Deal with the relationship issues as you need to, but once the chlamydia issue is resolved -- you are tested and negative, and/or you have been treated -- you can disregard any health consequences. Believe it and move on.
p.s. just to clarify I know that hsv1 can transfer from lips to genitals through oral sex and that hsv2 can transfer from genitals to mouth from oral sex, i was simply wondering if you can get hsv1 or hsv2 on your genitals if all you did was give oral sex and you DID NOT have anal/vaginal sex...I wasn't sure if it can just transfer in swallowing fluids
Thank you so much doctor for your kind words and detailed response. I read the thread and it helped a lot to know that it is very unlikely that I could have contracted any STD from these exposures. I have one more question, I promise this is the last one, I am not so much worried about this but it is just a general question that I was wondering. I talked to my doctor yesterday and she completely confused me about this topic so I figured I'd ask you. I am wondering about herpes transmission because I have HSV1 because I get cold sores on my lips ever since I was little. I never give oral sex if I have a cold sore on my mouth or feel that I may be getting one or still healing one. However, I was wondering if in the event that I gave oral sex and swallowed to someone who had either HSV1 of HSV2 on their genitals, could I then get HSV1 or HSV2 on my genitals? Or does it have to be direct genital-to-genital contact with HSV1 or HSV2 in order for it to transfer? I was just a little confused because my doctor made it seem as if from giving oral sex I could get hsv1 or hsv2 on my genitals even if I did not have vaginal/anal sex with the person. Just a general question that I wanted to know for future knowledge so that I can be as careful and safe as possible.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
HIV is the hardest of all STDs to transmit and it is almost never passed by oral sex. And dspite all you might have been (e.g. from health education classes), it remains rare in heterosesxual in the US, and the chance your boyfriend's partner had HIV is extremely low, no matter how many sex partners she has had. Finally, HIV testing usually is valid by 6 weeks, and some tests are completely accurate at 4 weeks after exposore. Three months is old news. Chlamydia testing is accurate within 5 days of exposure.
Here is a thread that explains why the sexual exposures you describe were very likely to result in any STD, and why HIV is virtuallly impossible. Start reading with the follow-up comment on December 14: http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/1119533
In addition, you can spend some time reading the HIV forum to see lots of discssions about the low risk of oral sex for HIV.
Please try to accept this reassurance. You really are not at serious risk of HIV or any other STD from these events.
Here is a thread that explains why the sexual exposures you describe were very likely to result in any STD, and why HIV is virtuallly impossible. Start reading with the follow-up comment on December 14: http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/1119533
In addition, you can spend some time reading the HIV forum to see lots of discssions about the low risk of oral sex for HIV.
Please try to accept this reassurance. You really are not at serious risk of HIV or any other STD from these events.
also just one more thing, the reason I worry about HIV through oral sex is because I always bite the inside of my cheeks, its a bad habit so I was worried it might increase my risk of transmission and also because my boyfriend rimmed.
thank you so much for your response doctor. It definitely put my mind more at ease, I am going to make an appt. to get tested for everything today. However, my fear with HIV is, don't you have to wait 3 months after a risky exposure to be sure the results are accurate? I am mostly nervous because I gave my boyfriend oral sex and he rimmed and I guess I just always worry about the worst-case scenario especially since he engaged in sexual activities with a girl that I don't know and that has had multiple sexual partners. Also, how long after being exposed to chlamydia would I have to wait to get an accurate test result? I wasn't sure if there's an incubation period or anything like that.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
