std?

[worriedcookie]

About a year and a half ago I broke up with my long term boyfriend and was completely stupid and unaware that other people could have stds. So I met a guy and went home with him, and stupidly had a good amount to drink. We ended up in his bed, but we didn't have sex [i've never had anal/vaginal sex], just lots of fricton with genital contact. In the morning I wasn't exactly sure what happened, but he for some reason told me 'don't worry I dont have stds.' And I, haven't even IMAGAINED that would be an issue, got really scared he would bring it up.
Immediately when I left, my vaginal area began BURNING, for a few days. Its been a year and a half since then, and I am constantly itchy down there, and there are tiny white dots on my outer lips. I am freaking out because I am afraid it is an std [herpies?], but I am wishfully hoping maybe its a curable infection? I have had some genital contact with about 4 other people since then and none of them have any symptoms like I do. I wear tights and tighter fitting clothing daily, so maybe that would influence something? Is there anything that could get ruled out or something I most definetly have?

[auntiejessi]

OK time for a little tough love here.

I'm not sure what is scaring you so much about the exam, but its a must.  What if this is just a yeast infection and you are making it worse?  Since you haven't had penetrative sex, the exam doesn't need to be that invasive.  

Is there a friend you trust that can go with you and hold your hand?  

I'd also wonder if this is anxiety.  You wouldn't get any symptoms of an std that fast, and maybe you are just more aware of things since you are so scared.

If you are old enough to fool around, you are old enough to take care of your sexual health.  Just think of how strong and empowered you'll feel after you finish the exam.  :)

Tell your mom that you haven't had sex (which is true) but have a lot of itching, and need to see the doctor.  When you get into the doctor, do the pre-exam alone, so you can be honest with the doctor, and tell him/her you don't want your mom knowing the specifics of your sexual activity.  By law, they can't tell her.

Aj

[worriedcookie]

I know I should go to the doctor, but what kind? I tried seeing a gyno last june but I FREAKED OUT and couldnt even be looked at. I'm really uncomfortable about these things and I don't even think I can get examined because I am so nervous. Also it runs in my family to have a thick hymen [mother & grandmother] and had to get it cut. What would I even tell my mother when setting up the appointment. Ughh, this stuff just makes me so nervous.

[Vance2335]

Since it has been 1 1/2 years I suggest it's time to see a Dr. It sounds more like irritation but it is time to get it checked out.