. the mark is not a blister or sore and is more of a skin irrataion look than anything. then went to one of those anonymous std websites, which looked credible, and went to a lab and got a blood and urine
This could be many things including just plain ole irritation or even a fungal infection. The best course of action is to see your provider and get this looked at.
Yes. Syphilis takes about 6 weeks to show up on a test, and herpes can take up to 4 months. If its been less time since your last possible exposure, it could still be one of those things.