unprotected oral, protected vaginal sex ???

[smelly246]

Hello Doctors,

I have a few concerns and I hope you can help me to understand my current situation.

5 days ago, a friend of mine took me to a night club. It was my first time. Cut the story short. Everything happened very fast and I had sex with the girl (CSW) there. I touched her vagina with my hand for a few seconds but my fingers did not go inside. She then gave me an unprotected oral sex for less than 1 minute. After that, I had protected vaginal sex (one condom) with her for approximately 3-5 minutes maximum. As far as I can tell, the condom did not break and came out fine.

Anyway, I am now regretting it.

I know maybe I am considered as low risk for HIV, right? Although I will get the HIV test in 3 months time anyway.

What STD could I have caught? What symptons should I look out for? When should I do tests for STD? I do not want to wait for symptoms to show up first. The waiting and worrying is torturing me. The more I read on the internet the more worried I am.

This really has taught me a lesson, I will never be unfaithful again. Should I tell my wife or wait until I get fully tested? If I tell her, I think it will most likely end our marriage. It is ironic that I didn't know how much I love my wife until I did this stupid thing.

Thank you so much for your time.

[gracefromHHP]

if you need the peace of mind to move on after a year, by all means get testing. Honestly though it's not worth the time or effort to do so - no reason to think you contracted a std a year ago.

grace

[smelly246]

It has been almost one year since I had unprotected oral and protected vaginal sex with a CSW (see above).

I have not had any STD symptoms or any other major sickness in the past year (except maybe catching a cold/cough twice or thrice).

Is it very safe to say that I did not catch any STDs and HIV at all?

Thanks.

[Vance2335]

There is no specific number associated with low risk.

We do not recommend testing from oral sex and nor do the Dr's on this site.

You had no risk for HIV. Syphilis is very very low risk and not to be concered with. Herpes is also very low risk and if the woman didn't have a cold sore then no need to worry about that either.

[smelly246]

Thanks for your replies.

May I ask how low the risks are? 1 in 100 or 1 in 10,000? Just a ballpark figure, please.

At the moment, I don't know whether I should do tests for STD and HIV.

From Vance2335's reply, it seems that the risks are so low that I can consider myself lucky and don't need to bother to get tested, right?

I've found a clinic near me that offers a complete STD and HIV test package. Since I don't have any sypmtoms for Gonorrhea and NGU at the moment (6 days after my stupid act), should I just do this complete test in 3 months time when I can conclusively test for Syphilis, Herpes and HIV?

Thanks.

[kdaily]

symptoms don't always occur for those STDs if you by chance did get those you may not show symptoms for weeks or months.

STD's through oral sex is a low risk exposure unlike unprotected vaginal sex in which you had protected sex.

[smelly246]

Thanks Vance2335.

I am much less worried now.

May I ask what symptoms would have shown after 5 days if I had Gonorrhea or NGU?

May I also ask why you said "very very low risk" for Herpes and Syphilis?

Thank you so much.

[Vance2335]

What STD's could you have caught...from unprotected oral sex you have a low risk for gonorrhea, NGU, herpes and syphilis. Low enough risk that I would not even worry about it. From protected sex you had no real risk. I see no reason to test for STD's unless you get discharge and/or burning while urinating. If you had gonorrhea or NGU symptoms would have shown now. Herpes and syphilis is very very low risk. Testing for those are at 3-4 months and 6 weeks.

I see no reason to get tested other then to help with your anxiety/guilt.

Should you tell your wife...that is up to you. I can't tell you what to do in your relationship.