unprotected oral nightmare

[idiot75]

I am a married man of 13 years, 38 years old. Just over a week ago I made the bad decision to receive unprotected oral sex from a woman that I just met. She started performing and instantly the guilt hit me, my penis wouldn't respond and I stopped her about 2 minutes after she started. The next day or two I noticed some penis discomfort and have had frequent urination eversion since. Seems to be much worse at night. I keep looking for discharge and there is none I have even spread open the pee hole to see because I'm a paranoid freak worried too death about losing my family. I have been trolling these forums ever since as well. the head of penis and everywhere else looks normal excerpt looks like might be slightly irritated skin on one side of the hole. I really believe the guilt and constantly messing with myself with self exams, and the anxiety or stress is my only issue. In the back of my mind I know there is that small chance I have something and it is driving me insane. Any advice or better understanding of my chances of getting infected from my situation would be very much appreciated. Thanks

[gracefromHHP]

get some basic  urine testing to check for signs of an infection so you can start relaxing :)

[idiot75]

The frequent urination is still there but isn't as bad as it was. Still have some penis tip discomfort as well, also not as bad. I do notice if I don't think about what happened like during the day at work I really don't notice anything. It's still more of a night thing for the most part. I still have no discharge, no burning during urination and urine isn't cloudy as far as I can tell. I really believe and hope this is all in my head. One thing I know is I made a bad mistake and no matter the outcome this will not happen again.

[gracefromHHP]

guilty penis syndrome is very real and it sounds like you are experiencing it.  drink plenty of fluids and keep busy. if symptoms continue for longer than a few days, follow up with some basic urine testing from your provider.

very low risk that you contracted a std from this brief encounter of receiving oral sex.

grace

[Life360_Dave]

Yes worrying along with pulling constantly checking for a discharge could certainly add to your thinking you have something. Been there myself.

[idiot75]

Is it heard of to have these symptoms from worrying yourself? I do notice I feel everything down stairs and pay extra attention to everything. I'm going to hold off on testing. Hopefully your reply will ease the worrying and ask this will go away. If it continues I will go to the doctor for tests. Thanks

[Life360_Dave]

Hi and welcome. Symptoms dont happen the next day so you can rule that symtom out. Unprotected oral is considered low risk and from what you describe most likely none. Usual symptoms are a white discharge and urethra burning/itching about 5 days after exposure. If you were single with no life long partner most experts would not recommend testing without those symptoms. Since your married you might consider testing to rule out the low risk factor for their protection.