Let me list all the reasons that collectively add up to only one conclusion: you can be 100% certain you do not have an STD and never did. 1) The odds of any infection from the exposure you describe were low from the oral exposure and zero, for practical purposes, for the genital exposure. 2) No STD can start to cause symptoms in less than 36-48 hours, certainly not the next morning. It simply never happens. 3) No STD causes the symptoms you describe. (That includes herpes.) 4) You tested negative for all STDs. 5) In case the tests missed something, most STDs, including all those that might have caused urethral infection (which is what the early burning pain of the penis might have suggested), would have been cleared up by the antibiotic treatments you describe. 6) At least two physicians (or is it three?), including a dermatologist and urologist, can find nothing wrong and have reassured you.
Conclusion: You have no STD. Period, full stop. Your symptoms are classical for genitally-focused anxiety magnifying otherwise normal body sensations. Just as some people have to live with unexplained but benign back pain, headache, or joint pain, some people go through life with unexplained but clinically unimportant genital discomfort. You can be 100% confident you have nothing that will ever harm you or your wife. Where to turn now? I strongly suggest you stop looking for clues on line; and stop seeing health care providers for this problem--except perhaps a mental health professional if the symptoms do no subside.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
forgot to add that rash was on both inner thigh creases and that 2 seperate times since exposure i had stinging sensations while cumming.
I can completely understand you fears. It is almost as if I wrote your story. The only differnce is... I have had significantly more antibiotics than you....(to no avail by the way.) If this helps, please understand the chances are good that the Doctor will tell you that there are not any STD's that manifest themselves into symptoms within 8 hours(assumed that time duration from comment)
He will probably guide you to try and let this issue go.
Best of luck. (You are not alone)
Barney
thank you for your response doctor, i had just thought that with my swollen tingling groin, headache, rash on inner thighs(folds) and tiredness that genital hsv-1 would be likely. any thoughts as to why my wife would now be itchy/irritated down there. thank you again.
You have a misconception about herpes symptoms. What you describe doesn't sound remotely like herpes. Whatever is going on in your wife has nothing to do with you; such symptoms are everyday occurrences in millions of women. Yeast is a good bet.
HHH, MD