what is the best thing to do??

[cash215]

i didn't know i had genital warts until one  grow slow. but i thought it was a razor bump..then another one grow slowly after like a month or two. everysince then i have been  really using condoms wit my girlfriend. she went for a check up and she didn't have anything. i been wearing condoms since but the condom rolled up on my penis a couple of months back.   i have been dying to tell her but i don't want to lost her and now she txt me and said she has a lump on her virgina. please help cause i really don't know what to do about this whole situation??

[2terrified]

Did a doctor tell you that is what you have?  You don't want to scare her if you don't know that is what it is for sure.  Tell her to see her gynecologist to see exactly what it is then go from there.  

[cash215]

no i haven't been to the doctor yet, and i see two of them. i am about go to the doctor to see what i can do about them, they look like the clayflower or whatever they'er called. is there anything i can do about them??? i was about to tell her but im just soooo scared to tell her. it hurts because i love her so much but don't wanna lose her.

[Vance2335]

Get a diagnosis first, because you don't know what they are.

[2terrified]

It sounds like warts by your description but I don't know what treatment there is for HPV if there is one.  I don't recall of ever hearing of one.  If they get really bad, I think there may be some type of removal process.  But until you get a proper diagnosis, there is no answer we can give you as far as that goes.  Maybe one of the doctors will pop on and be able to answer your question.

As far as you telling your girlfriend, there really is no telling how long you have had it.  It is possible for men and women to have HPV and show no signs.  I had no idea I had it until a routine pap.  If you ever had unprotected sex with your girlfriend before you saw the growths, then it is possible she had it without knowing.  Unless she was a virgin with no genital to genital contact at all.  And if indeed HPV is what you have, you really need to tell her so she can get checked out.  Some forms of HPV are highly suspected to leading to cervical cancer.  You just want to be sure so she can monitor her health and prevent this from happening.

Sorry, I couldn't offer any better advice.  Good luck.