4 nights ago I met a woman on the internet and then at a bar for the purpose of having sex. She was not a prostitute, but indicated she had been with many men. After drinking too much, she came back to my place. She performed oral sex on me briefly, without a condom. I performed oral sex on her, also briefly. We had very brief intercourse, maybe only a minute or two, with a latex condom. The condom never came off during sex. It covered the shaft of my penis completely. We stopped because I could not maintain an erection due to the alcohol and condom. She left.
For some reason, I am always paranoid about contracting herpes, I think because I know people who have it. Every time I have sex with someone I don't know, no matter what precautions I take, with even the slightest itch, tenderness or discomfort, I convince myself I've contracted herpes. (Prior tests were negative for genital herpes antibodies.) I have done so again after this recent encounter. Although there are no lesions on my genitals, no sores on or around my mouth, I feel tired and sluggish and have heard flu-like symptoms precede an outbreak. I also think the area around the base of my penis feels tender, which of course it would be after sex. Yet, I cannot stop worrying, and have confined myself to my couch out of fear. How unfounded are my concerns? When can I stop worrying? What should I look for in the meantime?