Am I never going to enjoy sex again? Is this physical or can it be psychological?

[cuteey55]

Okay so when I first started masturbating, I loved it. It felt absolutley AMAZING. But everytime i would be done masturbating, I would feel discusted about myself. Guilty and stupid. But I would do it every single day! Anyway after masturbating for 3 months every sinle day, I suddenly became constipated. Everytime I would masturbate I would make it worse and worse. It feels like everytime I push for it to come out, I was putting pressure on my vagina and some urine would ocme out. It is SO weird and i have neveeeer heard of anyone ever having this problem..idk why this just happened. Also when I would masturbate, I would have an orgasm. I kept fingering myself even after the orgasm, so I can force myself to keep enjoying it. I have a feeling this is what messed everything up. Also I would masturbate everyday even if i did not want to! If i was not horny or in the mood at all, I would MAKE myself get in the mood. so i would finger my dry vagina untill I finally felt pleasure and had an orgasm, again when i had an orgasm i would make it last and last for a good 3 more minutes even if i did not want anymore and at the end id feel like crap. So after 2 years of doing this, it just started to not feel good anymore. I had sex for the first time a year ago and it was extremely painful. I can not even go to the gynocologist for a regukar check up because when they stick in the stick it is extremely painful. I had sex recently and it felt somewhat good, but not that amazing feeling. Well now i dont want to have sex. Like i get aroused with my boyfriend and i want to do it, but when he touches me it doesnt feel as good as id expect it to. What have I done to myseelf? I feel like the muscles that contract during orgasm are still contracted..Is there any way to fix this? :( please help I am so young im only 18. Thank you

[cuteey55]

Thank you for your reply. I hope your right but its just been a long time since I have felt any pleasure, idk how to fix this. And exactly which doctor do i need to get evaluation from? I go to a pediatricion, so does this mean i ask her to refer me to a gynocologist? I really just want to get back to normal..its so hard i am barely ever aroused, only when i am about to get my period in a few days is when i get aroused when I used to be like it all the time! This is all so weird also i forgot to mention, I get discharge not only in my vagina but in my butt as well...thats is soo strange and it has me so worried

[Bhupinder Kaur, MD]

Hello,
Although some people may relate masturbation to childhood mistakes, weakness, depression etc, but scientifically & medically it has been found to have no causative effect on any physical or mental disease. You can indulge in this activity as long as it is pleasurable and you have the drive for it.

In your case, it looks like psychological feeling of not enjoying sex. Changes in the hormone levels can also cause anorgasmia (lack of orgasm). Other causes are stress and anxiety, alcohol and drugs, relationship issues and medicines like blood pressure medications, antihistamines and antidepressants.

First of all have a good discussion with your partner and talk to him openly about your relationship issues. You should ask your partner to indulge in plenty of foreplay or use a water based lubricant like KY jelly. If symptoms persist then get an evaluation done from a doctor.

It is very difficult to precisely confirm a diagnosis without examination and investigations and the answer is based on the medical information provided. For exact diagnosis, you are requested to consult your doctor. I sincerely hope that helps. Take care and please do keep me posted on how you are doing.