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Anal Sex problem
My boyfriend's fantasy is about anal sex

and he asks me for that. Besides, he tells me if you don't like you don't have to.
Although anything related to anus in sex

is a turn off for me, I tried to be flexible and caring. But I don't enjoy it and I feel at least I'll get physically hurt, and also I read about its risk of physical damages

I'm starting to feel in the long time it is a problem. How should I behave him to not hurt this relationship and be effective to change his mind?
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684030 tn?1415615923
I'm not a doctor... but I can tell you from my experience that if you're not comfortable about engaging in anal sex (for any reason) then avoid it. And, simply tell him... no. Most men, at least the more sensitive or caring ones, will understand and not press the issue... few would take it personally.
My guess is that his hints may actually be hopes. And, maybe he figures that if he brings up the subject often enough that one day, you'll change your mind and say, yes.
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I can fully agree with iam1butterfly!!
He is waiting for you to give in, but if you don't feel comfortable with it just tell him in all honesty that this is not what you want to do and that it will never happen.
If he does not understand and does not respect your wishes, you might want to think about if he is serious and respectful to your feelings!!!

Good luck!!
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