This is not a specific answer. However, it helps for anal sex. There are 4 types of prostate massage. One of them is anal peripheral prostate massage. This can be used by female also. Google prostate massage or anal peripheral prostate massage to learn details.A female can also use it for this purpose. It will facilitate anal sex for man and woman as well.
I don't think you have anything to worry about - next time be sure to use a proper ph balanced lubricant, like KY or something similar. :)