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Are my fears rational? because they control my life
Hello, this all started a few years ago, my friend got a cold sore and she felt miserable, she kept trying to cover it up while saying "everyone can see it," she was so ashamed she didnt want to leave the house. Ill never forget how much she cried as she said it was herpes and how horrible she felt. I then read in a magazine that a cold sore on the mouth is the same thing as genital herpes outbreak, its just on the face. Remembering the fear and embarrasment she felt, I have feared this for the last 3 years. Somehow I have let it control my life. You can catch a simple sore from sharing a drink or cigarrette. I also read in a medical book that the virus on the mouth causes most cases of genital herpes. I guess its scary because most people think you have to have sex to get it, but you can be married for 10 years, and if one person happens to catch a cold sore from sharing a drink, and then if they ever give their husband/wife oral sex ever in life, they will give them genital herpes because they have that virus on the mouth now. Is that true? I have been with my 1st boyfriend for 3 years and I go to extreme measures to avoid the possibilty of catching one, by not sharing drinks or lipgloss. I thrown my drink or lipgloss away if anyone drinks off it or uses it ,ect . But when my boyfriend shares cigarretes and drinks with his friends I have horrible panic attacks. Does anyone know any truth to this? If you ever get a simple sore on mouth, r you doomed to get genital herpes, even herpes of the eyes Ive heard? This has become my worst fear after seeing what one of my best friends has gone through. The effort to avoid going through what she went through, and this horrible fear really does take over my life, if anyone has any advice or knows anything about this, I would greatly appreciate it, thanks emilie
First off.
R-E-L-A-X!!!!!
You're freaking out wayyyy more than you should be.
The possibility of spreading it along to a partner after sharing a drink, then having oral sex is verrry slim. You would have to share an infected drink and almost immediately have oral sex. The bacteria do not last very long in un-moist areas.
Just because you get a cold sore does NOT mean you are going to get genetial herpes! Cold sores happen! All cold sores do not contain the herpes virus!
The odds (yes I looked it up) of your boyfriend sharing a smoke or a drink with someone who has a herpes cold sore outbreak are 28463 to 1. He has to be in the exact place and at the exact time someone is having an outbreak, and drink their drink right after they perferated the sore.
If you're that worried, use a dental dam. It's like a condom for your mouth!
R-E-L-A-X!!!!!
You're freaking out wayyyy more than you should be.
The possibility of spreading it along to a partner after sharing a drink, then having oral sex is verrry slim. You would have to share an infected drink and almost immediately have oral sex. The bacteria do not last very long in un-moist areas.
Just because you get a cold sore does NOT mean you are going to get genetial herpes! Cold sores happen! All cold sores do not contain the herpes virus!
The odds (yes I looked it up) of your boyfriend sharing a smoke or a drink with someone who has a herpes cold sore outbreak are 28463 to 1. He has to be in the exact place and at the exact time someone is having an outbreak, and drink their drink right after they perferated the sore.
If you're that worried, use a dental dam. It's like a condom for your mouth!
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