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To silent23lamb - your issue could also be some sort of mental think - feelings of inadequacey or fear of not getting a hard erection. (The very fear itself can CAUSE what you fear.) But I noticed when I was in with my urologist geting a prostate exam that he had numerous phamplets in a rack - one of which concerned ED. They have an implant that can help men with ED. But I think that it a last resort.
Levitra and Viagra are both supposed to help with ED. I tried Viagra but it didn't do a thing for me - except give me a headache. (It works by opening blood vessels - which can also lead to headaches.)
My advice for both of you is to go to Google.com and enter "Erectile Dysfunction" as a search term. You'll find lots of useful information.
I did that search and found this from the May Clinic -
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Erectile dysfunction (ED) is the inability of a man to maintain a firm erection long enough to have sex. Although erectile dysfunction is more common in older men, this common problem can occur at any age. Having trouble maintaining an erection from time to time isn't necessarily a cause for concern. But if the problem is ongoing, it can cause stress and relationship problems and affect self-esteem.
Formerly called impotence, erectile dysfunction was once a taboo subject. It was considered a psychological issue or a natural consequence of growing older. These attitudes have changed in recent years. It's now known that erectile dysfunction is more often caused by physical problems than by psychological ones, and that many men have normal erections into their 80s.
Although it can be embarrassing to talk with your doctor about sexual issues, seeking help for erectile dysfunction can be worth the effort. Erectile dysfunction treatments ranging from medications to surgery can help restore sexual function for most men. Sometimes erectile dysfunction is caused by an underlying condition such as heart disease. So it's important to take erectile trouble seriously because it can be a sign of a more serious health problem.
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