Can't get hard again after finishing during intercourse!

[Brianddt555]

I am a somewhat healthy male 27 years old. When I say somewhat I smoke and used to drink heavily and smoke pot. This combination when I was 18-24 was great, I could maintain an erection for hours. I laughed when they came out with Viagra. But now I have settled down with my wonderful beautiful gf. We have been together for almost a year now. When we first got together I had not had intercourse for four months before that eight months. I used to have lots and lots of casual sex! I decided to quit and find someone special. k gay i know but anyways when we first got together the sex was amazing, we are both nymphos and would take forever for me to finish, i could control it to the point that she usually finished before me! At one point I lasted for about four hours no joking. I finished twice. We would also do it about 1-4 times a day now its like once everyday so i have something to build up to! "I was the titanic now i feel like I am at the bottom of the ocean!" My problem is things went the opposite for me and I don't know why. I feel I have a somewhat problem with premature ejaculation on occasion but my biggest problem is trying to get hard after I finish. The other night I wasn't really in the mood so I figured it would take awhile to finish usually does! But after about 2 minutes I finished leaving her upset. I tried everything but nothing could bring him back to life even waiting a little bit which i don't want to have to do this anyways because she is usually out of the mood by then. I have no clue what is going on before finishing was something I could control. I am not sure if it could be that I no longer drink (which when i do i last forever and can get hard again) or it could be the pot catching up with me. The only other thing I could come up with is four years ago I ended up with a wart on my penis. The doctor cut it off sent it in. The lab results are inconclusive. He also froze it. The wart grew in an area that was rubbed raw by masturbation when i was 16! Since that happened I did notice very minor changes in my sexual activities. Any help I would appreciate it. Thank You.

[hometruth]

Most men experience a refractory period immediately following an orgasm, during which time they are unable to achieve another erection, and a longer period again before they are capable of achieving another ejaculation. The duration of the refractory period varies considerably, even for a given individual. Age affects the recovery time, with younger men typically recovering faster than older men.

Stress can also be a contributing factor to both erectile function and premature ejaculation. If there have been any major changes in your life style this could be a factor.
Also worrying about this won't help. It's a catch-22 situation. Try some relaxation techniques; loads available to download on the internet and listen to.  Try a yoga class or going for a run.

Also talk to your partner about this. If your stressed, she will be too. Also ask her to try and help you through it. It's something both of you can have fun getting over.
If she is unhappy at  you for not being able to maintain intercourse; try extended foreplay and oral sex (you to her) and gradually re-introduce intercourse. When the time is right your penis will let you know.

[turtle21]

all guys go through something like this at one point in their life. You're not 16 anymore, and your penis isn't either. I think the wart has absolutely nothing to do with what you're experiencing now. You've been in this relationship for a year, you must have very strong feelings for her. Perhaps your feelings for her are stronger than you realize, and you feel such a connection that makes you ejaculate faster than you did when you two were just getting to know each other.
You could get her close to her climax BEFORE you engage in intercourse. Foreplay is much appreciated by us girls. Also, you could try using some lubricant so there's less feeling, or try using a condom for her sake... so you can last a little longer for her to enjoy it.  Good luck!

[jandd]

You're getting older and men stop being able to "recover" as quickly when they reach their mid-late twenties.  This is normal.  Just make the "first" round worthwhile for both of you and stop worrying.