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Can't stay hard (age 23)
Hi
I've been having a problem of staying hard enough ever since I started a new relationship. I haven't been in one for a while and now it seems when it comes to sex it's really difficult for me to perform. However, for some reason even while I'm alone it's difficult to get hard. I'll try watching porn etc. and it won't have the same effect as it used to.
The problem is that I get extremely aroused but still can't get hard, and it's very frustrating. It seems I only get fully hard about 2-3 seconds before orgasm, and it never used to be like this. If I don't put it inside during sex within that 1-2 second frame and then try to control it, the erection disappears within 2 seconds. It's very annoying. It seems sometimes I can get to that point of being 'almost hard' but not further, I can still orgasm like that sometimes but it's impossible to have sex because my girlfriend is very tight and it's practically impossible to put it inside without being extremely hard.
As I say, it never used to be a problem, but now even alone I can't seem to get an erection, I don't know what it is and it's pretty embarrassing. It seems sometimes when we have sex it even gets too soft inside her, what could be causing that??
Thanks.
I've been having a problem of staying hard enough ever since I started a new relationship. I haven't been in one for a while and now it seems when it comes to sex it's really difficult for me to perform. However, for some reason even while I'm alone it's difficult to get hard. I'll try watching porn etc. and it won't have the same effect as it used to.
The problem is that I get extremely aroused but still can't get hard, and it's very frustrating. It seems I only get fully hard about 2-3 seconds before orgasm, and it never used to be like this. If I don't put it inside during sex within that 1-2 second frame and then try to control it, the erection disappears within 2 seconds. It's very annoying. It seems sometimes I can get to that point of being 'almost hard' but not further, I can still orgasm like that sometimes but it's impossible to have sex because my girlfriend is very tight and it's practically impossible to put it inside without being extremely hard.
As I say, it never used to be a problem, but now even alone I can't seem to get an erection, I don't know what it is and it's pretty embarrassing. It seems sometimes when we have sex it even gets too soft inside her, what could be causing that??
Thanks.
Hi,
I am having a similar issue as you. If you don't mind, what was the solution to your problem? Did the Urologist help?
I am having a similar issue as you. If you don't mind, what was the solution to your problem? Did the Urologist help?
I booked in to see a Urologist, but 3 months, come on, I don't want my equipment to fall off (at the rate I'm struggling now it seems to be getting worse every day).
I got my hands on some viagra. 0 effect. This is so frustrating. Guess I'll have to try to cope for 3 months (if the Urologist even helps).
I got my hands on some viagra. 0 effect. This is so frustrating. Guess I'll have to try to cope for 3 months (if the Urologist even helps).
Okay I know this sounds weird but are you thinking about it? What do you really think about during the masturbation aspect?
Sometimes this can be mental and other times it can't be. So here is what I suggest you do if the doctor has no clue and isn't offering any suggestive tests or anything then I would seek a urologist out. Lets get them involved in your health because that is their area of expertise. Start with a hormone test to see what your hormones are at and doing. Then go from there. If it is ED your doctor needs to investigate.
Hope that helps with your next step.
Sometimes this can be mental and other times it can't be. So here is what I suggest you do if the doctor has no clue and isn't offering any suggestive tests or anything then I would seek a urologist out. Lets get them involved in your health because that is their area of expertise. Start with a hormone test to see what your hormones are at and doing. Then go from there. If it is ED your doctor needs to investigate.
Hope that helps with your next step.
It's not stress, it won't get hard at all anymore, even while masterbating. It stays floppy at best. I saw the doctor and he says he doesn't know what it is, so I don't know what my next step is.
Well there is a few things I see in your post.
First off you are stressing a lot about your erection. I bet money that you are sitting there asking yourself "why can't I get hard" and thinking about that the entire time you are going to have sex. I bet your frist fear to was also "is she going to think I am big enough" or something of the sort. Male erection can suffer because of stress. Which I kind of get the feeling you have because you say in your post even porn isn't getting you fully hard. So I would say that at this point you are worring way to much.
Don't think about the erection. Think about the act you are about to do. Have more foreplay with her. Have yourself dirty thoughts about things. Get into a sexual mood and not the worrying mood you are in.
If this doesn't help start looking to your doctor to have your testorone levels checked and start looking into what he/she may say about ED.
Depends on the guy and the situation. Guys can be hard for a while or not very long. 5-10 seconds says to me you are stressing or are not getting enough stimulation. Try some different things maybe even a lube that warms when you blow on it.
First off you are stressing a lot about your erection. I bet money that you are sitting there asking yourself "why can't I get hard" and thinking about that the entire time you are going to have sex. I bet your frist fear to was also "is she going to think I am big enough" or something of the sort. Male erection can suffer because of stress. Which I kind of get the feeling you have because you say in your post even porn isn't getting you fully hard. So I would say that at this point you are worring way to much.
Don't think about the erection. Think about the act you are about to do. Have more foreplay with her. Have yourself dirty thoughts about things. Get into a sexual mood and not the worrying mood you are in.
If this doesn't help start looking to your doctor to have your testorone levels checked and start looking into what he/she may say about ED.
Depends on the guy and the situation. Guys can be hard for a while or not very long. 5-10 seconds says to me you are stressing or are not getting enough stimulation. Try some different things maybe even a lube that warms when you blow on it.
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