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Does Penis size is a matter?

Me and my wife r seperated now, the reason was that she began cheating me bcz of my penis size.
She was not satisfied with that, instead she was used to be satisfied with big penis before marriage.
She always was frustrated after intercourse with me. Is there any maedicine or way to gain penis size?
I've between 4 to 5 inches at the moment.Does size is too big matter for women that they can break a
relation due to this. What should i do next?
Should i marry or not, bcz same could happen again :(
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I agree don't change your size I basically have a forearm between my legs. I honestly believe it's harder to hook up and swear to god ive had women run out of the room, and while plenty women out there that are considered size queens I don't know the size really matters what I think it matters is your guises connection. keep your chin up. you may think the grass maybe greener on the other ; side but you're going to have to mow it too. and not to babel but if you have  you have to change for anybody it's not the right person.
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My penis size is 3cm but am telling u ave been with this woman for 20 years and she is very happy with it,she get orgasm every time we have sex,size does not matter.
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968185 tn?1248255581
My boyfriend is quite small, for starters he's about 6 inches shorter than I am. We have been together for 4 years and I love him so much, but he has only made me come twice, once after a 3 hour session and once with his hand. He is not good at oral sex, so I just tell him I don't like it. But Whenever I sleep with him I will fake it.  I tell him he's the best I've ever had and nobody else ahs ever made me come like him. Sometimes i fake it 3 times in a row. I still enjoy sex, even without the orgasm. I enjoy it much more than playing with my toys, it's just the intimacy of it. Being close and working together and getting all sweaty. After we are done I will go home and I am so turned on when I play with my toys I can come so much faster, but I still feel like he satisfies me with what he has. For me sex is more about the intimacy and feeling loved, and it still feels good. Sometimes I can use my toys 5-6 times in a night but I won't be satisfied until I'm with him. You just have to find the right girl, making my man feel good makes me happy. I can take care of myself.
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From a guy who has more prespective then dodo86...size does not matter to most women. I am currently married and I am over 7" and I am limited on the positions that I can do with my wife because I will go in too deep and hurt her.
I was also once with a gril who was 5'0" 100lbs, I am 5'10" 175 and because of my length we had sex 2'x and she could not handle it.
So bigger is not always better. I have never had a woman stay with me because I was big.
I also made sure that the first thing I do is oral. Trust me, if you want to make a woman happy (for the most part in bed) learn how to really orally please her.
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303824 tn?1294871401
Here's my two cents. My husband would KILL me if he knew I was saying this, but he is less than average in the size department but I tell you what....we have the most AMAZING sex life! He knows how to use it and that is what counts. He is very in tune with my body and knows what I like. After 6 yrs of marriage, our sex life is still going strong and I am proud of it. I can honestly say he is the best I've EVER had and size has absolutely nothing to do with it. I've said it before on another thread and I'll say it again...size has little to do with pleasure and everything to do with communication. Every woman is different and like different things. All in all it's about achieving one thing-the BIG O, which is rarely done by intercourse alone anyway. If you can bring a woman to climax and then have sex with her, you have served your sexual purpose. Your wife was probably getting upset because she wasn't getting her "O" and you were. That would upset nearly all the women I know, including myself. You have got to know what it is about the woman you are with that drives her wild. Make sure she climaxes and I think your sex life will be just fine with your next partner. Good luck!
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Take it from a guy who has had multiple partners in his life (I don't even know how many at this point), and I am roughly 5.5 inches long with a twist ... size doesn't matter to most people.

It is just like men and breasts.  If you are a man who likes big breasts, there are others out there who like small breasts.  Same thing with women.  Big penis matters to some, and to others, it doesn't.

I have found that women who are between 5'0" and 5'5" are likely to be smaller and so they don't need a 8 inch penis to fill them up.  Most of the time women have said that girth (width) matters more anyway.

But even if you are small what does it matter?  Look, if women needed big penis, then most men today would be bigger, and you would not have 75% of the population between 4 and 6 inches long.  It would be much more homogenous.

Since your wife left you, I offer my sympathy.  You will have to journey on your own to find out the right woman for you.  Do not let rude and thoughtless comments get you down, just find a girl who likes you for who you are.  
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964307 tn?1247252606
Dont worry about a thing taja_mistri penetration has nothing to do with making a women have an orgasm i would say the way you rock your boat is what counts. Its her lost.
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all u people r tryin to make it easier for him but not helping..and each one of u girlzzz prefer a 7 inch penis to a 4 inch one,, plus u all know that with a small penis u can only do limited positions .. so the exitement is less and the routine is increasing,, if i just compare myself when i was 15 years old with a 5 inch penis and now with a 6.8 one .. well its not a big diff in length but very big difference in performing,, at least its not slipping out anymore..plus ive never seen a girl buying a vibe less than 6 inch.. why???ive seen vibes of many girlzz friends of mine ,, theyre bigger than mine..why does a 5 inch vibe stay on the shelve 10 month while they sell hundreds of 7inch ones everyday.. u can see statistics..
taj ..as a man i advise u go see a doctor man and ask abt operations .. i know it can be done and ull take this thing off ure back for ure hole life.. gl
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Hells ya. size does matter. But the question is, are you working it good? If you do. She shouldn't be complaining. Don't worry about the woman u r going to be with someday. You can be good at something else. YOU KNOW!!! Do you?
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963449 tn?1247425865
She couldn't have loved you anyway. If she would have actually loved and cared about you, she wouldn't leave just because of your size "down there". Truthfully, a big package scares me because I know it will just hurt more the first time I have sex with that person.
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372900 tn?1315512302
Penis size does NOT matter.  If someone truly loves you then they don't care how big you are.  All they care about is that you guys have an intimate relationship.  If a mans penis is "too small to satisfy" then the couple should take the time, together, to compensate for that.  More foreplay, using toys, whatever.  But, like I said, if your wife truly loved you she would have done something to help you satisfy her.  She would have told you what she liked in bed as far as foreplay goes.  It sounds to me like she was just looking for an excuse to leave you.  You deserve better than that!
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look taja im not tryin to make it harder but all bullshits that say size doesnt matter r wrongggg..size do matter ,,, not sayin to have monster one but at least average,, wich i think is 6inch,, well mine is abt 6.8 inch and sometimes i feel like i wanna go bigger cause all women really cares but dont let u feel it,, or blame u..cause in many relations i heard women tellin me ohhh urs is bigger than his or bigger than my husband  or,,,, u know and they feel more happier thats what u can see on their face,, so guys stop this bull **** that size doesnt matter,,, yes u can burn her out with using only ure fingers but till when???? i think still the same fingers plus a good penis will work much better...
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Unfortunately, your wife may be a size queen.  It would be pretty shallow for her to say that, but there are those people in this world.  If you love this women and she loves you, find some alternatives to satisfy her.  She may just be saying that to get under your skin and hit you were it hurts.  Every woman knows that a man's penis is sacred ground and that every men is obssesed with their penis size.  

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If you are mistri then what is problem with you. You youself can make an extension to your penis.
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I have the same size and fully satisfying two wives.
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332074 tn?1229560525
If size were an issue, there would be a lot of lonely men and women out there. You can't change yourself unless you have some surgical procedure done, so be happy with what you got. You are about average and if she is not happy with it, let her find someone she is happy with. The size of a man penis does not make for a happy marriage.
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stay the size you are dude.  you dont know how many girls I talk to who complain that sex hurts, a large size isnt always a good thing, find a girl who goes for what you have, believe me there are plenty out there.  
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ok if penis size is a matter then what size could be a satisfied size? and how can i get a partner as trend here is to marry 1st and then have sex...so there is no parameter to judge either the next one will satisfy or not :(
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484465 tn?1532214032
Size does matter to me.  But that's me. You will have to find someone who can be satisfied with you and what you have to offer in every way.  I dont believe you should ever attempt to alter yourself for any reason in the world.  If my husband weren't happy with my breasts so what?!  I'd say scr*w him.  Bump that woman.  You'll find someone better in time.  
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There's no excuse for cheating, even if your penis were microscopic.

A woman is going to love you for love no matter what your penis size.

Overall, it just sounds like she's being superficial. You wouldn't dump her because you weren't satisfied with her breast size or if her belly had gotten too big, right?

A woman who loves you will ultimately love you for you, no matter what your size.
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like wise, i completely agree with taja..most women dont have orgasms from penetration so size has never mattered to me, and all my girl friends agree with me on that.
dont stress about it or even think about it, you are who you are and im sure you can find another great woman to love you for you
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152852 tn?1205713426
I agree with idkk123.  Women don't even need penetration to orgasm, so size doesn't matter.  I think your wife probably said that to hurt you, for whatever reason.  She sounds very selfish and unkind.

Don't be self-consious about it--your worrying and feeling insecure will likely be more of a problem than your size.  Take your time and find a truly sweet woman who will love you for you.
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love matters, size doesnt. find a small girl. it might be tmi but i like my boy friend because we fit...and i am very small...
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