I’m pretty sure I have a problem with masturbation. I masturbate between 5 and 9 times a day. Probably closer to 8-9 times. I can’t control how much I get turned on and the compulsion to masturbate every time to relieve the arousal. I masturbate once in the morning when I get up every day, I never don’t do this. I sometimes masturbate on my way to work in my car and about 2 or 3 times, on average, at work. Being at work is my biggest problem, I’m getting to the point where I can’t really concentrate because I’m consumed by thoughts of when can I get away to do it, where can I do it. I feel compelled to do this at the very least 2 times and have done it as many as 6 times in one day. I am getting to the point where it is controlling my workday. I then masturbate every day, no exceptions, in my car on the way home and I then usually masturbate twice in the evening and I have in the past woke up in the middle of the night more than once to relieve myself. I can’t control this any longer and need help, I have no idea why I am so aroused and aside from that I feel I should still be able to control my compulsion to masturbate every time I am aroused like this but I can’t I have to do it and it is getting more frequent and the necessity is way higher.
how old are you..?
its also possible if you are taking some medicane and it effect on your hormons really bad.. Or you might need to change your life style completely.. for example what you eat..? i have never heared this before that a women can masturbate this much and in car... woow...how can you manage driving..?
how long its been that bad..?
28, am i shape, no meds, it has been like this for about a year.... I feel its because I recently had a breast reduction and my nipples and hyper sensitive now so I'm super aroused by just my clothing up against them. The problem I think that I have is the compulsion to masturbate because of the arousal.... why can't i just forget about it?
yes you are probably right.. if your nipples became sensitive then you would not quit... nipples has connection with womens vagina.. women always gets arousal if her nipples are touched ... but i am still surprised how can y do in car while driving..?
I knew there was a chance they would be hyper sensitive after the procedure and perhaps I have no control over that but I am just concerned about the fact that I have no control over the masturbation part of it..... I am so compelled to do it. As for the driving thing, one hand on the wheel, one hand 'down there'..... it's really not a problem if you don't have a manual transmission.
i think you should see a doctor .. they might be able to give you tablet to control your hormons.. did you notice new hair anywhere on your body and you never had before... this is also a symtom of hormonz disturbanc... also your periods can also cuase disturbance.. do you have regular periods...?
well you scared me that you come every time you masturbate... this is excessive.. try not to come and if possible you should talk to those people who reduce your breast...
I think this is definitely not normal, and I'm with butterfly I don't think that the nipple sensitivity has really caused this frequent urge to masturbate, but it may play a very small role. When did you have this breast reduction? Was it before or after this 'addiction'? This is interfering with your day, so it's an obvious problem, and an addiction. Are you in a relationship?
what you need to do is stop masturbating as often as you do. Try to cut down to only doing it when you're at home. Not in the car or at work. This is like any other addiction, except you don't have to stop all together.
After you have cut down to only doing it while you're at home, then try to cut down to only a few times a day. Keep yourself busy so in your downtime you're not constantly thinking of doing it. Good luck.
I am agreeing with what iam1butterfly was alluding to... It is possible to get addicted to certain behaviors, especially if they make you feel good instantly (with masturbation, you feel good while you do it, and then when you orgasm it's the cherry on top!). But, it might be your way of subconsciously relieving stress or anxiety, coping with a bad day or an unsatisfying communication with someone, trying to escape feelings of restlessness, etc. In this respect, you are NOT abnormal. A lot of people have addictions to things...
If you don't think it has anything to do with trying to deal with your environment and your emotions, then my suggestion is obviously... try stopping. Try curbing it down.
Also, you might want to consider going to a doctor (your normal doc, or a gyn, or an endocrinologist) to see if they can take any blood tests to check on hormonal imbalances. (I think testosterone can boost sex drive..?)
Hello, I've found your question due to my problem of compulsive masturbation.
I am 19, and I masturbate between 9-26 times a day, each time climaxing.
I've been doing this since the age of 9. I feel so creeped out about doing it, but once I feel that sensation there is nothing I can do to not masturbate. I have to do it to get it out of my system, there is times where I would climax, stop for about 20 seconds and then carry on.
Most boyfriends I have are soon to realise I need constant sex to keep me happy, but even then I need to use my hand else I wouldn't enjoy the sex. I haven't done anything about it but I think maybe seeing a doctor could help the problems. I also suffer from anxiety and worry which I feel could be another problem to this compulsive behaviour. It would be nice to hear your views, even though it has been so long since you have posted this!
I masturbate ALOT. It just feels so good. Better than a male doing it. I believe it has something to do with your brain. The weird thing about mine is I just rub my clit and I moan, sometimes I use fingers but I normally don't..is this normal?
When you do anything in excess ,you are not enjoying the act. the best alternative could be do it in an excellent manner. If you have real good and long orgasm, you will not need more sexual act.Take a chance with Female Deer Exercise. This is a massage accompanied with kegel .exercise.It appers like a masturbation, however it has a different quality and different results. you may google female deer exercise.
Another technique I suggest is perineum bath. You sit in tub in such a way that your perineum is submerged in water. It may include buttokes and thighs. Sit in this bath for 15 minutes everyday. Perineum is a place whenre there are many nerve endings. This bath will soothe these nerve endings. This is called Mehan snan.A man stretches his foreskin and pour water on stretched skin. If his foreskin is removed, he can use perineum bath.
When you have sexual urge, do slow abdominal breathing,while masturbating do not stop breathing. Keep your perineum relaxed. Do not over visualize sexual scenario. Do not masturbate when you are over excited. Do female Deer exercise regularly. You may do perineum bath suggested as above. Learn Pranayam to calm your self. when ever there is an urge, you may circulate your sexual energy around microcosmic orbit.Google microcosmic orbit. If you learn this circulation, and your sexual hunger is diminished, your enthusiasm for your life will increase. you will enjoy your life to the fullest.Do not lose your self esteem. Consult a doctor. Probably she will ask for hormonal levels. Rule out medical problems. Do not involve your self with erotic literature or porno.Start Female deer exercise just from to-day. It will not harm you. Study this exercise from 3 or 4 websites.Best of luck.
I am the same boat as you.i am a 34 year old female and I've been masturbating since I was 11 years old.lately I've been doing it for hours and after wards I cry.i don't know what's wrong with me but I'm addicted to it.and it's the only way to release this stress and frustration of arousal .
I am the same boat as you.i am a 34 year old female and I've been masturbating since I was 11 years old.lately I've been doing it for hours and after wards I cry.i don't know what's wrong with me but I'm addicted to it.and it's the only way to release this stress and frustration of arousal .I can't stop!! Help
Im the same way. I often find myself trying to fond ways to get alone so that i can masturbate. If im home alone for most of the day, i normally spend it masturbating and watching porn on my phone or computer. I seem to always be aroused and fantasizing about sex pretty much all the time. Even typing this comment is making me so aroused that i feel like im going to explode. I have been this way since i was about 10 yrs old,but i have no desire to change this. I love having orgasms and the feeling of euphoria when im fondling myself.
It is good that you have a very good sexual drive. This strong urge can be used to enhance your mental capability and you can change your life. Circulating sexual energy(urge) around microcosmic orbit. Google the micro cosmic orbit and learn how to circulate. Regular practice will be enjoyable.
The above method is for the male. You may try the method if you find it convenient you may practice it.
Female Deer exercise is good for female. Google the phrase and practice if you want.It will be a healthier practice.
I am female, in my 30's and have masturbated a lot since I was about 10. I go through phases, sometimes I go for a few weeks without doing it, other times I do it 5-10 times a day. It feels awesome, and whilst I enjoy sex with my partner, I just know where to touch myself to have really good orgasms. I enjoy both using a dildo or just clitoral stimulation on its own. I don't think there's anything wrong with that, but if you can't stop yourself from doing it at work or in the car, maybe you need to talk to a doctor or someone.
Alternatively, do you maybe secretly want to get caught? The idea of someone getting turned on when they catch you masturbating can be really hot. If so, maybe there are some online communities for that.
I'm 21, Male i feel guilty every time I masturbate i cannot control it even i have done it on work, i get excited on porn and then start to masturbate, sometimes i even put my penis in between my legs and squeeze them and I *** sometimes 4 times repeatedly I think I'm a sex addict. And need help
you may Goodle the following words and do any exercise you feel comfortable with.
Microcosmic orbit- circulating sexual urge around it.
make deer exercise.
There are many other techniques to reduce sexual urge.
I think you should look at what arouses you. Are you thinking sexual thoughts like intimacy and intercourse? Or are you focused on the climax an instant self gratification that comes with it? The reason i ask this is I've been in a similar pattern myself a few years ago where my problem was psychological. Boredom/depression and other negative feelings led me towards addictions. I didn't smoke drink alcohol or do drugs, but i loved to masturbate. I just became a spiral: Id have sex, 20mins later think about the orgasm, and masturbate, then again about a half hour later. This would continue until i was sore. I even enjoyed the slightly tired/ painful feeling in my penis after doing this several times....i was obsessed(yes I have done it while driving to). Once i changed my bad life circumstances this problem automatically disappeared and now I'm down to once every 2-3 days just so i can think normally.
So perhaps something is out of place in your life and your masturbation is a pick-me-up that's out of control a little. I think there is nothing wrong with masturbation, after all its a wonderful act of self love but it can't replace a well balanced life. If you're constantly thinking about sex there maybe a chemical imbalance after operation or just extremely horny. If you're focused on the climax it maybe a constant need of self gratification
Not sure about solutions to the problem. Perhaps drive to work a different way. this may stimulate your mind elsewhere. Change jobs, ask for more responsibility in your current place of employment. Exercise a lot to make yourself tired. Cold shower or cold bath. Get someone to teach you correct meditation techniques
i am 30 and suffer from this. i didnt realize it was an actual disease until watching the tv series Sons of Anatrchy. lol. i always thought i was alone and weird for this. id like to control it better tho. if anyone has advce please share thanks
I think that it is possible that you have a condition called persistent genital arousal disorder. It can arise from many things such as nerve damage, hormone problems, or cysts. I would talk to a doctor. A urologist is typically the doctor to see for this issue. try to find one that specializes in female urology. I have had this condition for about 5 years and have greatly seen an improvement with treatment. Mine was caused by a cyst in my urethra. good luck!
I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I have a masters degree in Psychology and a bachelors degree in Behavioral Science......along with my undergraduate studies in Human Services and addiction counseling. Also, I've specialized in Abnormal Psychology and have aprox. 4,000 hours in both internship and practicum doing direct care in Abnormal Psychology. I've done multiple internships......followed by autonomous practicum in a sate hospital for the insane. In other words, I've given care to those most in need.
No amount of education or experience will allow me to "magically" diagnose anyone. However, it does give me the ability to compare and contrast behaviors. It also gives me a wide scope with which to view patients. A width that the average person may not have.
It is my opinion that most of those who've posted on this topic are very simply "over thinking' it. Sexual behavior is different for everyone and most forms of sexual behavior are not considered abnormal. Masturbating once a month is just as normal as masturbating 10 times a day. It's not the frequency of sex or masturbation that makes it abnormal but rather the thought process associated with the act. We all have a "movie" or "fantasy" of some kind running in our mind when we masturbate. The spectrum of these fantasies is as wide as the depth of human emotion itself. For some it is the sexy person they saw at the mall last week. For others it's a past sexual experience or a past lover. Others will invent entirely original fantasies that have no connection to anything that's ever happened in reality.......and still others will simply be aroused by the act of masturbating and may even relive past masturbation experiences. It's also important to keep in mind that most of us have a dark side.......some people may have dark or socially unacceptable fantasies.......but would never actually act on these fantasies.
Someone suggested that you may be suffering from Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder, also known as PGAD. I have worked with women who suffer from this disorder and can say, in complete confidence, that this is not your issue.
You're possibly suffering from an "addiction".......However, due to your obvious awareness of your behavior, coupled with a lack of denial and a sincere desire to seek help, it's unlikely that you are an addict. However, think of this: If you're sexual behavior (masturbation or otherwise) is creating negative repercussions in your life and you continue the behavior in spite of the negative consequences.....then you are an addict.
Enjoy your sexuality. Love yourself. Don't create worthless anxiety by questioning your normality. You're not hurting yourself or anyone else. You are a human being and a sexual creature. As a human being you are the only animal on the planet with the ability to chose when and why you want to have sex..........as apposed to it being an act of procreation brought on by a metabolic cycle and/or the scent of a pheromone.
If you still feel as if you have some kind of problem you may want to talk to your doctor about hormone levels. There are simple tests that can be conducted to see if your hormones are within the normal range.
Ultimately, I suggest that you give yourself a break. I suspect there's nothing sexually abnormal about your masturbating behavior........and that you are needlessly creating anxiety.
Lastly; this behavior will change. All of us go through fazes. Our sexual behavior changes many, many times throughout our life. Cut yourself some slack and enjoy this faze in your life :o)
Sorry to write a novel, lol....I'm sure I bored everyone to death with all of this clinical analysis (or at least the 2% who actually felt like reading, lol!).....but this was important to me and I wanted to help.
I live with a female who continuously masturbates at night. She thinks i don't know and tries to hide it but i've notices it and to act normal. However, it is now effective our sex life....at times she prefers to masturbate alone than have sex and this makes me sexually frustrated and felt unwanted.
Possible solutions are various, my friends tell me to just leave....other encourage me to find a secret sex buddy and others want mt to tell her and face reality....but she denies it every-time I mention the subject.
Yet, sometimes she refuses sex....i pretend to sleep and she starts to masturbate continuously some 8 or more times. I refuse to understand that this could be better than actual sex and definitely kills my personal sexual esteem.
So females in this situation should take this into consideration that even though I love my partner i might have to just leave one day soon....and since she denies all this, I can't even justify my actions. Sad, very sad but reality is not a fairytale with happy endings.
I don't think it's a decease. sexuality varies with hormones and hormones vary with age and life experiences and sometimes even with various foods or meds..
if shared with your partner it could actually be fun to simultaneously masturbate if one finds an understanding partner or group of close friends. There are much worse health conditions one can worry about than simply masturbating 10 times a day, in my opinion.
I think you either suffer from an addiction to masturbation or have the psychological disorder of OCD.Google OCD and read the symptoms. If you feel like you can relate to the disorder find a qualified psychologists and explain your situation. With therapy and understanding your issues you can change them. You seem very intelligent and open to understanding your problems so I think this will be good for you. If you do not feel like you can relate to OCD I would agree you have an addiction. Seek a psychologist for that as well.
I would like to be driving next to you! I'm turning 71, I started masturbating at about age 9 or 10. I'm married and either have sex with my wife or masturbate 5-6 times per week. We sometimes masturbate together.
I've had my testosterone checked last year and it's like a 30 year olds.
I truly think it's because of good diet and exercise.
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