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Frustrated and discouraged...
My husband and I have been together for almost 5 years, and married for 7 months.
Our sex life has caused a lot of stress in our lives and our relationship. Before I get into our problem I want to make a few things clear; my husband does masturbate, and this does not bother me, he also watches porn and this doesn't bother me either, we watch it together on occasion.
As long as we have been together my husband has always had a very difficult time ejaculating while we were having sex. It would usually last about 2 hours and would rarely end in him actually ejaculating, it would usually end in him being extremely frustrated and exhausted from getting very close to ejaculating and loosing it over and over. We would have rough times where this happened every time we had sex and then we'd have a few times when it wouldn't be as bad and he would be able to ejaculate after some time...but sex has always been exhausting and frustrating. I'm always a little apprehensive to have sex because I don't want it to end in us just being exhausted and frustrated. Recently he has also been loosing his erection during sex and is unable to get it back. Because we don't have sex very often he resort to masturbating frequently (about 5 times a week) and he does not have any problems maintaining an erection or ejaculating when he masturbates. This is very confusing to me and also very frustrating. We recently went to the doctor and talked to him about his inability to ejaculate and loosing his erection and he gave him samples of Cialis and Viagra. Nether of these drugs worked. He still lost his erection (not as quickly as he usually does though) and he was unable to ejaculate.
I don't know what to do. We want to start a family but obviously that's impossible right now. I just want us to be able to have a healthy sex life and I don't know what to do or where to turn.
Our sex life has caused a lot of stress in our lives and our relationship. Before I get into our problem I want to make a few things clear; my husband does masturbate, and this does not bother me, he also watches porn and this doesn't bother me either, we watch it together on occasion.
As long as we have been together my husband has always had a very difficult time ejaculating while we were having sex. It would usually last about 2 hours and would rarely end in him actually ejaculating, it would usually end in him being extremely frustrated and exhausted from getting very close to ejaculating and loosing it over and over. We would have rough times where this happened every time we had sex and then we'd have a few times when it wouldn't be as bad and he would be able to ejaculate after some time...but sex has always been exhausting and frustrating. I'm always a little apprehensive to have sex because I don't want it to end in us just being exhausted and frustrated. Recently he has also been loosing his erection during sex and is unable to get it back. Because we don't have sex very often he resort to masturbating frequently (about 5 times a week) and he does not have any problems maintaining an erection or ejaculating when he masturbates. This is very confusing to me and also very frustrating. We recently went to the doctor and talked to him about his inability to ejaculate and loosing his erection and he gave him samples of Cialis and Viagra. Nether of these drugs worked. He still lost his erection (not as quickly as he usually does though) and he was unable to ejaculate.
I don't know what to do. We want to start a family but obviously that's impossible right now. I just want us to be able to have a healthy sex life and I don't know what to do or where to turn.
you said he's been losing his erections during sex and masturbating frequently 5 times a week.
these are not symptoms of delayed ejaculation
these are not symptoms of delayed ejaculation
Thank you for your reply and the article you shared. This condition describes my husband to a T. It's nice knowing this problem has a name and there are ways we can work on it. Thanks again.
Sorry to break the bad news but it sounds like your husband is porn-induced. This is a condition that has not been fully discovered by doctors yet. Men on their own are discovering this condition. I was one of those men. Your husband needs to refrain from excessive masturbation and porn. Don't allow this in your marriage. It will only get worst with time. I'm going to post a forum below that goes more into detail and I'm also going to post a website that concentrate strictly on this issue. Herbals and prescription med pills cannot FULLY help this situation. Feel free to send me private messages if you have more questions.
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Mens-Health/Too-much-porn-masturbation-cause-ED/show/183203?personal_page_id=2353900
http://yourbrainonporn.com
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Mens-Health/Too-much-porn-masturbation-cause-ED/show/183203?personal_page_id=2353900
http://yourbrainonporn.com
Im not sure to tell you about the sex part... Maybe he needs to be moving at the same speed as he does to self pleasure, not sure there. Ttc could be accomplished by IUI though or IVF if his sperm were to check out ok. What kind of Dr. Did you see? Did you guys see a urologist or a fertility urologist? Best of luck!
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the article is in question and answer format, and towards the end is some suggestions that a sex therapist would make. Good luck. If this does not help, then ask for a referral to a sex therapist or urologist.