GAY SEX

[kichus19]

DOCTOR, I MY NAME IS KICHU AND I AM A GRADUATE STUDENT, I AM JUST 19 YEARS OLD. I AM A GAY AND FROM MY CHILDHOOD ONWARDS I WAS INTERRESTED TO DO GAY SEX. I DONT HAVE MUCH INTERREST IN GIRLS. NOW I WANT TO GET OUT OF THIS ISSUE. BECAUSE I AM TOTALLY WORRIED THAT IT WILL AFFECT MY MARRIED LIFE. I WANT TO HAVE A HAPPY MARRIED LIFE. I WANT TO FORGET EVERYTHING WHAT I DONE BEFORE. SO PLEASE I NEED YOUR ADVICE TO STOP THIS MATTER AND I NEVER WANT THINK ABOIT THIS ISSUE.

FOR YOUR KIND CONSIDERATION
KUCHU
COCHIN
INDIA

[Nie4]

okay i am a 14 year old gay guy and i too believe that you are born either gay bi or straight. However you may take a while to find whish gender you are sexually attracted to. I myself have been straight gay and bi before and have had relations as each of the above. i am currently gay and iwould advise you to do the opposite of what k_dog2009 says to do. Do not avoid whta your inner body and emotions tell you to do as this can lead to depression thaoght of suicied etc. i myself suffer deperession from doing this and hiding my secret frommy family. i say explore your sexuality andif anyone says it is a " sin " to be gay disregard this as many say God is forgiving (however i am not sure what is said about Alah). i have also been deeply bothered by the thought of a god or greater being who has such power over life as it is and have decided to go by my own religion perhaps i am slighly wierd but what ever suits you and makes you feel comfortable with being youshould be done.

The best of wishes,
Nigel

[k_dog2009]

If you want to step away from being gay, there are many people who can help you. I was gay as a pre-teen through young adulthood. I chose to seek change because I believed that acting out gay desires is morally wrong. There is hope for a staight life for you. I have a wonderful heterosexual sex life, I still love men in many ways, I just choose to not seek sex with them. I would recommend seeking resources on the Web for Overcoming Same Sex Attraction. Look into a group called NARTH

[tejodouro]

I believe that the current theory is that you are born biologically gay.  That is the way you are and you probably can not change it.  I am not gay but I have gay friends.  I do not think that they could change.  I know that you do not live in Europe or USA where gays and the gay life is more accepted now.  So, I am not sure how you can handle your life there.  Either way, it is my belief (I am not gay and i am not a psycholigist) that you probably can not change the way that you are wired.  If you have no interest in girls,  you probably should not marry a girl. That would only make you and her not happy.  So, you probably would  have a miserable life together. If you are gay, and happy, accept it and live your life accordingly.

[Jhnmarton]

As I see it you should change yourself the only one who can help you in the matter may be a psychologist, however this is doubtful. If you want to change find your own powers to do it.

Best wishes, John