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HELP ABOUT MY 1st Sex
Guys m going to loose ma Virginity ..
But i want to know few things.
like ..
1- She dont have any HIV / STD's neither me.Then is it safe to sex without condom ? .
I need answer about infections not about pregnancy because i can control it.
2- As it will be our 1st time , obv her Hymen will break and cause bleeding , Is that bleeding doesn't matter when it comes in contact wid ma penis ? or it does ?
3-If i Rub my Penis on her Vaginal Opening then is their any problem ??
4-If i dont sex so that her hymen breaks and insert ma penis (m telling i will not insert that much , that it break), just i will insert my penis a little bit.
5- if i do so(a little bit insert , will i loose my Virginity?)
Please answer me before tomorrow , i hope you guyz will .
But i want to know few things.
like ..
1- She dont have any HIV / STD's neither me.Then is it safe to sex without condom ? .
I need answer about infections not about pregnancy because i can control it.
2- As it will be our 1st time , obv her Hymen will break and cause bleeding , Is that bleeding doesn't matter when it comes in contact wid ma penis ? or it does ?
3-If i Rub my Penis on her Vaginal Opening then is their any problem ??
4-If i dont sex so that her hymen breaks and insert ma penis (m telling i will not insert that much , that it break), just i will insert my penis a little bit.
5- if i do so(a little bit insert , will i loose my Virginity?)
Please answer me before tomorrow , i hope you guyz will .
kk bro , i will tell her to wash her vagina before the intercourse and i will wash my penis .
.. it blocked out **. STDs be transmitted through oral sex. Honestly the person doing it is more at risk for getting chlamydia down their throat, but you don't know what else has been down there. Much better to be safe than sorry.
Anytime there are sex workers involved make sure you're safe. Use condoms for even a ******** and never go with a dodgy service. I know some of the nicer brothels get regular STD screenings for their workers, but it's still a little scary. Also just in case a condom breaks- it takes 3 weeks for the first test and up to 6 months for the all clear HIV test. However after 3 weeks you can get tested for all other STDs.
A vagina can have a yeast or bacterial infection. Ignoring the STD bacterial infections, women get bacterial infections from not cleaning toys, fingers, or a man with bad hygiene. Make sure you wash your penis well, especially under your foreskin if you have it. This will help prevent a bacterial infection in her and under your foreskin.
A yeast infection usually occurs because of an imbalance. Yeast is supposed to be in the vagina a little, but if it grows out of control it causes problems. Taking antibiotics, being very sick, having bubble baths/ using soap inside the vagina, and having diabetes could cause her to have repeated yeast infections. Fortunately these are very easy to treat with over the counter remedies. A man can get a yeast infection under the foreskin, so again just make sure you're washing it with an antibacterial soap after sex.
Rubbing on the outside of the opening you have a very, very rare chance of impregnating her. It's still theoretically possible, but very unlikely due to the distance the sperm would have to travel to find an egg. It's not completely "safe", 100% chance of no pregnancy, but that's really the furthest you can get without a large chance of pregnancy. You can also still get a STD from a small amount of fluid exchange, but if both of you are clean then it's fine.
A yeast infection usually occurs because of an imbalance. Yeast is supposed to be in the vagina a little, but if it grows out of control it causes problems. Taking antibiotics, being very sick, having bubble baths/ using soap inside the vagina, and having diabetes could cause her to have repeated yeast infections. Fortunately these are very easy to treat with over the counter remedies. A man can get a yeast infection under the foreskin, so again just make sure you're washing it with an antibacterial soap after sex.
Rubbing on the outside of the opening you have a very, very rare chance of impregnating her. It's still theoretically possible, but very unlikely due to the distance the sperm would have to travel to find an egg. It's not completely "safe", 100% chance of no pregnancy, but that's really the furthest you can get without a large chance of pregnancy. You can also still get a STD from a small amount of fluid exchange, but if both of you are clean then it's fine.
i appreciate your answer , but she really doesnt have any STD's as far as we both know , either i dnt have ..
so can i rub my penis on her vaginal opening ??
i read dat some infection can take place due to warmness and bacterias , if i say her to wash/bath/clean her body/vagina den ?
any chance of Infection..?
so can i rub my penis on her vaginal opening ??
i read dat some infection can take place due to warmness and bacterias , if i say her to wash/bath/clean her body/vagina den ?
any chance of Infection..?
To answer 1:
Infections can occur without symptoms. So unless you have a clean STD result there is always a possibility. Now if she's a virgin that possibility is left up to herpes and other diseases that are passed through blood like Hep C and AIDs. Mouth herpes can transfer to the genitals through oral sex, so if she's had ANY experience it's theoretically possible for her to have an STD without vaginal penetration. Also many children get AIDS through their mothers via breast milk and pregnancy, so while she would have exhibited symptoms of AIDs already keep in mind sex isn't the only thing that can cause AIDS. Last, are you a hundred percent sure she has never ever ever been raped. Many women won't tell so for ever person who presses charges against a rapist there are at least 5 silent. During high school I knew quite a few people who were sexually abused and only 2 spoke up against the rapist. Heck, look around this site for a bit, there are a lot of women out there who have been raped and don't want anyone to know. And not all rapists use protection so someone can easily get a STD through rape.
Controlling is bull****, sorry. The urethra tube that is the same tube that holds sperm, pre ejaculatory lubricants and urine. It's very very difficult to control and even if you can, it is not 100% effective. It only takes one sperm to fertilize an egg. Most people argue the "controlling" method falls between 60-80% effective at preventing pregnancy. So best case 20 times of having sex out of 100 you will become a father. Also masturbation is not the same as sex, so you really don't know how your penis will react once it's put into play. Also note this advice is coming from a married women who has full ability to handle any opps. And honestly would really love an "accidental" pregnancy although my health isn't up to snuff. Anyway, I and my husband both have full confidence in his ability not to ejaculate- yet neither of us take this change. The likelihood of pregnancy is way too high.
Also no birth control is 100%. Unless she is sterilized (had her uterus removed), most birth control forms are in the 90's. Assuming she's on the pill- that would be around 96-99% effective depending on how long she's taken it, on if she takes it at the same time every day, if she hasn't had any antibiotics in the past month, and if she's been on it for at least 3 weeks. If she hasn't done all that it's a lot less than 96%. So at least 1-100 times (or more if it's not being taken correctly) will result in a pregnancy. My cousin has 2 children from birth control misfire, my sister 1. My cousin took it correctly both times, but once she had antibiotics the week before; my sister missed one pill.
The emergency contraception- assuming she can get it from her dr and she is willing to take it (some people consider this abortion)- is typically less effective than a regular birth control method. Used almost immediately after I believe it's at 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. However it cannot be used more than 2x a year as it causes some SEVERE side effects on the body. Personally I was sick for 3 days, and had side effects spanning a month after taking it.
Abortions typically run 250$ (or at least that's how much it cost in 2005 when my friend got one). These are medical procedures and can be deadly if not done correctly. For the most part it has to be done in the first trimester and you may have to be over 18 or with parental consent depending on where you live. But this is assuming she would even be willing to do it.
So is it safe.. well how much do you want to be a daddy? You have a freakishly small chance of getting an STD if she is telling the truth that she has had no prior sexual activity. BUT you still have a pretty decent chance of parenthood even if she IS on birth control and IS taking it correctly. When I was a teen I was a nanny for my niece and let me tell you parenthood is extremely difficult, frustrating, emotionally taxing and money & time consuming- and I only got a part of it. She was a very well mannered child but that didn't stop me from having to teach her to use the potty, cleaning up vomit, or dealing with temper tantrums. Imagine cutting class so you can take care of a sick baby. Imagine coming home every day to clean up toys, make dinner, give a child a bath AND Then at about 9pm be able to do your homework- not fun. Imagine every one of your friends are going out to a club.. you have to be at home with a baby with a fever- not fun. Now I love that munchkin like no one would believe, but I didn't have a childhood. It was hard and it was painful to see all my friends care free and I had to work 20 hours a week and come home to take care of a 3 year old at age 16.
In my opinion- SO NOT SAFE! Unless you have the money, resources and commitment to take care of what you started - put a condom on! Otherwise you're trusting this girl that she is in fact clean (she could be lying), and has been taking birth control exactly as recommended- and many girls don't out of ignorance or desire. My niece came into this world because my doped up sister wanted to have a baby at 14. She stopped taking her birth control secretively so her and her boyfriend could get married. A delusion shared by many young girls who are desperate to have a fairytale life. Just don't do it. You'll be sweating for the next 3 weeks before you can find out if something happened.
2: Many women don't actually bleed. The hymen can break for many numerous reasons prior to any penetration (so excluding masturbation and rape). That means bike riding, horse back riding, an accident, tampons, etc. could all damage the hymen. Some women also have a freakishly tough hymen and that doesn't necessarily rip clean the first time. It's not uncommon for a women to bleed up to their 3rd time having intercourse. Personally I didn't but my friends have described it from small unnoticeable amounts to "OMG IT LOOKED LIKE A MURDER SCENE!". But when it comes down to it my mother described it as not being any different from having sex on a period- at the end of if, there's so many fluids it doesn't make that much of a difference.
Is this blood harmful- only if she has a blood borne illness (like Aids and Hepatitis). Just be prepared it might be a lot, it might be nothing.
Infections can occur without symptoms. So unless you have a clean STD result there is always a possibility. Now if she's a virgin that possibility is left up to herpes and other diseases that are passed through blood like Hep C and AIDs. Mouth herpes can transfer to the genitals through oral sex, so if she's had ANY experience it's theoretically possible for her to have an STD without vaginal penetration. Also many children get AIDS through their mothers via breast milk and pregnancy, so while she would have exhibited symptoms of AIDs already keep in mind sex isn't the only thing that can cause AIDS. Last, are you a hundred percent sure she has never ever ever been raped. Many women won't tell so for ever person who presses charges against a rapist there are at least 5 silent. During high school I knew quite a few people who were sexually abused and only 2 spoke up against the rapist. Heck, look around this site for a bit, there are a lot of women out there who have been raped and don't want anyone to know. And not all rapists use protection so someone can easily get a STD through rape.
Controlling is bull****, sorry. The urethra tube that is the same tube that holds sperm, pre ejaculatory lubricants and urine. It's very very difficult to control and even if you can, it is not 100% effective. It only takes one sperm to fertilize an egg. Most people argue the "controlling" method falls between 60-80% effective at preventing pregnancy. So best case 20 times of having sex out of 100 you will become a father. Also masturbation is not the same as sex, so you really don't know how your penis will react once it's put into play. Also note this advice is coming from a married women who has full ability to handle any opps. And honestly would really love an "accidental" pregnancy although my health isn't up to snuff. Anyway, I and my husband both have full confidence in his ability not to ejaculate- yet neither of us take this change. The likelihood of pregnancy is way too high.
Also no birth control is 100%. Unless she is sterilized (had her uterus removed), most birth control forms are in the 90's. Assuming she's on the pill- that would be around 96-99% effective depending on how long she's taken it, on if she takes it at the same time every day, if she hasn't had any antibiotics in the past month, and if she's been on it for at least 3 weeks. If she hasn't done all that it's a lot less than 96%. So at least 1-100 times (or more if it's not being taken correctly) will result in a pregnancy. My cousin has 2 children from birth control misfire, my sister 1. My cousin took it correctly both times, but once she had antibiotics the week before; my sister missed one pill.
The emergency contraception- assuming she can get it from her dr and she is willing to take it (some people consider this abortion)- is typically less effective than a regular birth control method. Used almost immediately after I believe it's at 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. However it cannot be used more than 2x a year as it causes some SEVERE side effects on the body. Personally I was sick for 3 days, and had side effects spanning a month after taking it.
Abortions typically run 250$ (or at least that's how much it cost in 2005 when my friend got one). These are medical procedures and can be deadly if not done correctly. For the most part it has to be done in the first trimester and you may have to be over 18 or with parental consent depending on where you live. But this is assuming she would even be willing to do it.
So is it safe.. well how much do you want to be a daddy? You have a freakishly small chance of getting an STD if she is telling the truth that she has had no prior sexual activity. BUT you still have a pretty decent chance of parenthood even if she IS on birth control and IS taking it correctly. When I was a teen I was a nanny for my niece and let me tell you parenthood is extremely difficult, frustrating, emotionally taxing and money & time consuming- and I only got a part of it. She was a very well mannered child but that didn't stop me from having to teach her to use the potty, cleaning up vomit, or dealing with temper tantrums. Imagine cutting class so you can take care of a sick baby. Imagine coming home every day to clean up toys, make dinner, give a child a bath AND Then at about 9pm be able to do your homework- not fun. Imagine every one of your friends are going out to a club.. you have to be at home with a baby with a fever- not fun. Now I love that munchkin like no one would believe, but I didn't have a childhood. It was hard and it was painful to see all my friends care free and I had to work 20 hours a week and come home to take care of a 3 year old at age 16.
In my opinion- SO NOT SAFE! Unless you have the money, resources and commitment to take care of what you started - put a condom on! Otherwise you're trusting this girl that she is in fact clean (she could be lying), and has been taking birth control exactly as recommended- and many girls don't out of ignorance or desire. My niece came into this world because my doped up sister wanted to have a baby at 14. She stopped taking her birth control secretively so her and her boyfriend could get married. A delusion shared by many young girls who are desperate to have a fairytale life. Just don't do it. You'll be sweating for the next 3 weeks before you can find out if something happened.
2: Many women don't actually bleed. The hymen can break for many numerous reasons prior to any penetration (so excluding masturbation and rape). That means bike riding, horse back riding, an accident, tampons, etc. could all damage the hymen. Some women also have a freakishly tough hymen and that doesn't necessarily rip clean the first time. It's not uncommon for a women to bleed up to their 3rd time having intercourse. Personally I didn't but my friends have described it from small unnoticeable amounts to "OMG IT LOOKED LIKE A MURDER SCENE!". But when it comes down to it my mother described it as not being any different from having sex on a period- at the end of if, there's so many fluids it doesn't make that much of a difference.
Is this blood harmful- only if she has a blood borne illness (like Aids and Hepatitis). Just be prepared it might be a lot, it might be nothing.
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4: inserting your penis without breaking the hymen seems pointless in my opinion. I think only 1-2 inches is enough to break a hymen. That doesn't seem like enough to be pleasurable on either side.
5: The definition of virginity really started as "being penetrated." Since the only kind of penetration a male can have is anal sex, it is arguably impossible for a man to loose or have virginity. HOWEVER modern day definitions of virginity usually equate to sexual experience. So if you have the experience, you are no longer innocent or untouched as far as sex goes and therefore you are no longer a virgin. However everyone seems to define that a little differently -"I've never had vaginal sex, only oral so I'm a virgin;" "I've only ever had anal so I'm a virgin." I've heard both. (Which is another reason why being a virgin doesn't necessarily mean they're STD free different people define "virgin" differently.)
Also keep in mind that for the women the feeling goes between -"uuugh that's weird and uncomfortable" to "DEAR LORD THAT HURTS!" Most women feel the latter and this can go for the first few times of having sex. So it's important to be gentle and listen to what feels good for her. It's also important to comfort her, especially if you're young teenagers. I know of several girls who spent their first night crying. I know of a girl who refused to talk to their boyfriends for a couple weeks out of shame and confusion. I also knew of one girl who broke up after freaking out thinking she could be pregnant and realizing she wasn't ready for sex. I can guarantee she is just as nervous about all of this as you are, if not more so.