Help!!

[Blinxerz]

I just really want to know.. HOW can I help myself if my mom have deterred me from babies???

She never talked to me about babies...how they are and worked and what they do.. and if I wanted to.. then she said its not an easy job and I'm surely not ready for it now..and I felt so uncomftable after talking to my mom about it..

Since I getting to know my fiancé.. I felt the love bond strong between him and me and omg I started to get baby fever.. wanting to have 1 with him.. Our own.. But its gone

I never ever had experience with babies..

..but sadly 1 day my mother in law saw a friend of hers near a shopping centre and she held a small baby which was her grand- child.

When me and my fiancé was about to go buy food, my mil called us and asked her friend to give me a minute with her grand child.

So my fiancé holded the baby 1st but when it was my turn to hold the baby..my fiancé passed me the baby gently and I started to feel sad because I didnt knew what to do..e.g. How to hold the baby ect.. I wish I knew what to do ..

Do someone know that I should do?

Everytime I see a baby  I get a sad feeling and dont want to go near them..

I'm so deterred of babies..
      

[frankj93]

Having a kid is like having another job, for both of you. At least for the first 3 years, then it gets easier pretty fast.

[SquirreliciousAngel]

I agree with remar if you're interested in becoming a parent but aren't comfortable at this time, parenting classes would be best. Also after you take the classes they may be able to refer you to a child care center like a YMCA where you can volunteer to get some exposure to dealing with children while someone else is present.



Best of Luck
~S.A.

[remar]

Your mother was so right about babies. Taking care of one is the hardest job you will ever have. You do not seem ready to have a baby. Why don't you wait until your married? Children need a stable environment. Just because you feel like you want a baby now does not mean your ready for one. We're talking about a human being that needs love, attention, clothes, diapers, food, health care, and the list goes on. Once you get married if you feel like your ready to start a family then you can get books and even take some parenting classes.