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Help! Problems with parter and orgasm

Okay, this has been driving me insane. I'm young, really young so to speak and to the contrary very healthy. Albeit, a little thin. At 5'11, I weight in at only 120. I'm very active and quite intelligent, considered handsome and all of that droll. Long, curly brown hair, ecetera. My problem is with my current girlfriend. We're both very sexually active, almost any amount of time we can spend together is spent in some kind of activity RELATING to sex. Kissing, touching, ecetera. When me and her have sex, it generally lasts for a great period of time. Three, four hours at max, an hour or two at least. She's never complained, says I do fine, and I didn't take her virginity, to the contrary again she took mine. She's a bit older then I am, and has been around the block a bit more. Says I do fine, last twice as long as her previous boyfriend, and the same size down below or bigger. When we actually DO get to intercourse, it normally takes me fifty minutes to an hour and a half to have an orgasm myself. During all of this, she never has one. I'm not inattentive, I give her oral, and she gets off. I'll use my fingers, and she gets off. Every time I have ONE orgasm through sex, she has two or three from other means. She says she loves sex with me, that I'm the only one making it a problem, but it makes me feel so horrible that she can't come during actual sex. After I come, I pull out and use my fingers to make sure she gets off AGAIN. She says it's just the way her body works, and I'm at my wit's end! Is it me? Is there something wrong? She says I turn her on more then I'd know. But it doesnt' seem that way because it makes me feel so bad that she doesn't come when I do! She keeps saying it's just the way her body works, and that it was the same with her previous boyfriends. Someone PLEASE offer me a little advice or encouragement or SOMETHING. Thank you for your time, sincerly, Tai.
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I believe the stats are that 80% of women DO NOT orgasm through sex itself & only 20% are lucky enough to.

Taiiat - firstly bravo on being able to last 50mins to 90mins yourself once you start sex, I only wish my husband could last that long.  From when we start sex itself, which I might add is usually the only thing we actually do, he might last 5-10 mins max.  Also I commend you for caring that your partner gets off coz my husband doesn't bother with getting me off anymore.  He just sticks it in, then it's over.  She's lucky you care.  

Also, there really is nothing you can do about it but well done for trying.  You have to accept that it's her body causing it & the way she is.  You need to stop bothering her with it too coz otherwise she'll think that the fact that she doesn't orgasm during sex is a problem for you & that you aren't happy with her etc... she'll feel bad for not being able to & I'm sure you don't want to be making her feel bad.  I don't *** during sex either & I've had guys continually question me about it & it's made me feel inferior, like they're not happy they can't & would rather be with someone who could orgasm during sex with them.  I'm sure you don't want that.  
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750172 tn?1256147076
I orgasm from intercourse as well, but, don't have a single girlfriend that does. Who knows???
To: Taiiat
This website basically tells you the best way for a woman to achieve orgasm, maybe it will help give you more ideas...
http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/sexuality/a/clitoraltruthin_2.htm
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Just to add to what a commentator just mentioned above, the key to female orgasm is the tip of her clitoris. Try as much as you can to rub her clitoris with the tip of your tool; but after serious fore-play and fingering without letting her orgasm before you get in. The problem is that your finger can locate her clitoris better than your tool, but with patience and deligent seach, your tool can always hit the target. Foreplay her until her vagina is well lubricated and up to the point where she 's helpless, then you can get in and when you get in, focus on the tip of her clitoris and concentrate on bringing her to climax.
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646779 tn?1281996041
Just to add, I orgasm from intercourse itself. It's his **** that hits the G-sp*t, so I guess I'm in the minority...at least if these other two comments are right in knowing all about ''most women''.
Just a comment.....   ......  ... .. .
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750172 tn?1256147076
Yeah, he's right, most women don't actually orgasm from intercourse.  Most the time women aren't climaxing b/c of their issues, not the guy's performance.  Just a suggestion...try a position where you can stimulate her clitoral while having intercourse, then you both win!!
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Most women can not have an orgasm during intercourse. it's just nature. There is nothing you can do to give her an orgasm during intercourse.
My wife can not orgasm during intercourse but will orgasm from clitoral stimulation...oral sex.
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