No better ideas than self-discipline and trying to distract yourself when you feel the urge. But why would you want to? There's nothing wrong with it, in general.
If it's interfering with your sex life because there's nothing left in your tanks when you want to have sex with your partner then it may be worth cutting back a bit. Similarly if you are doing it so often it's interfering with other areas of your life.
What's your situation? How old? Do you have a wife/girlfriend/boyfriend, if so how regular is your sex life with them, and is masturbation interfering with it? How often are you masturbating and why do you want to stop?
how is masturbation mastering my control over it?
i get bored i masturbate or alone or right after great sex its just that one thing thats good after everthing like a cig but its has come to the point that i need too. to sleep if im not falling a sleep when i want to or when i just had a really good sex talk to my girlfriend.... the point is that what is the best way and everybody comments how its talking over their lives but no solutions.
we all do it and is natural but everything too much is bad so tell me whats the solution besides just stop how do i research in to my mind and find a stop to this?
and i need something clever not just your expirence (what your going on with you) we dont care if there is no ideas or wanting to find a solution to the problem...whatever you truthly think it could help...
Stopping is not an option for me but cutting down certainly is, i think having will power is the only way to acheive it. Here is my situation.
I am in a good relationship; we have regular sex (4-5 times a week) however she works shifts so I find myself in the house alone most evenings. Boredom sets in so masturbating is a way to pass a couple of hours or a couple of minutes depending on the situation. At the moment I literally cant get the front door open quick enough to have my first wank of the evening, by the time my girlfriend comes home it is not unusual for me to have masturbated 7-8 times. I have always thought that this "teenage" behaviour would stop at some point but now at 29 I have admitted to myself that I must just enjoy it an awful lot.
I joined a gym recently to give myself something else to do but the swimming pool has always a few bikini clad women strutting around and again I found myself rushing to get home or in a cubicle for an emergency shuffle.
I suppose I don’t have any advice, im just letting you guys know that there are guys out there way past your level of masturbation. I recently did a calculation of how many times I had masturbated in my life, 29(my age now) - 11(the age I started) = 18 years, 18years x (3 average times per day x 365 days in the year) = 19710. Frightening isn't it!!
I STARTED MASTURBATING WEN I WAS A FRESHMAN CUZ OF ALL THE GURLS AT MY SCHOOL... I MOSTLY DO IT EVRYDAY .. A GURL HAD DONE THE MASTURBATING FOR ME N THATS HOW IT STARTED .... NOW TODAY AS A SOFTMORE I WANT TO STOP DOING THAT CUZ ITS NOT GOOOD FOR ME.. BUT I CANT STOP I PRAY TO GOD TO HELP ME STOP DOING THAT BUT IM TRYING MY BEST NOT TO DO THAT .....I NEED HELP N A GOOD ADVICE FOR ME THANK... I WANT TO STOP DOIN THIS ITS NOT FUN OR ANYTHING GUYS... IT GUNNA MESS U UP WEN U WANT A BABY.... LATEZ HELP ME.. PLEASE..
hey all.. i hope i could help..
listen here r some things try to do it,it may help
first of allif u r felling bad about it and u wanna stop it thats a good thing coz it with help u to stop it i know u must be saying right now that no it didnt help but it did.. even if its just 2%
try not to spend so much time alone or not to sleep alone in the room have a bro or a friend with u and if it cant be done then try to spend more time with family and friends till u r really sleepy so that when u go to sleep u sleep straight away..
i know guys get turned on easily so if theres any seducing scenes or any hot clips try avoid this at the moment.. and start a hobby or something like footballor guitar or piano ive got piano example and try to put all ur focus and thinking on it.. if u got turned on the first thing u must think about is to get away fromthe place u got that thinking and go out or do somethng anyhting even if its to go and drinkwater or eat to distract u and to to a full roomwith people coz with people around u , u wont be able to masturbate..and try to aviod the places u masturbate in like in a corner or a specific room.. i know that as soon as u feel like u wanna masturbate u wont go to a full room of ppl or call a friend coz u dont want to u want the exact opposite but just try.. ok u can start by something by the time u get my message check wat date it is on ur calender and from that date to another week or ten days u cant be masturbating nnot even once coz if u had decided and marked on ur calender that for one week u wont masturbate and u came on the 6th day and did it then it dosent count that u didnt do it for 6 days so u will have to start agian a whole new week or ten days but the thing is that ... try not to put that as an option that if u broke a week to be another.. if u r trying to stop there shouldnt be many tries and thinking of reducing it then stop it wont help..
coz stoping it totally then going back to it is even worse that after ur body is used to woek normally and provide the normal hormones u will be spoil everyhting specially that if will be feeling togood at the first time.. any way lets not think about that now just plz consider about wat if said and the calender thing
btw.. dont think about it much ur masturbating issue coz just thinking about it and that u r worried and not having a good selfesteem wont help trust me DONT think about it much u can be passing 4 days very easily without even feeling like u want to masturbate if u didnt think about it and got ur self busy..
so.. take care and keep in touch if theres anyhting.. send me ur email and we willbe in touch.... ive wrote wat i know to u and to a friend of mine and ireally hope i can help if anyone wants to know more i can be giving my email or u can add me as a friend
btw im not a professional or something just a friend who wanna help..
Just print out a picture of something that's really disgusting and ugly and keep it with u in your wallet, purse, WHATEVER it is you take with you every single day, and when you have that urge, look at it until you get turned off...
Hi, I do have some ideas to share.
You need to very aggressive to have control over it. Alway think that nothing can rule me, I have control over each single thing that I do. I master me.
Take your mind diverted to what you are intrested in music, cricket.
My thought is it wouldnt be a problem for your help unless it is done frequently and consistently. But it is definetly bad to your mindset, you will feel bad, floopy and disturbed. This may put you down. So I would tell every thing you do is in your hands.
To me its seems like we all have the same problem, wanting to stop but not being able to. Here are some tips that have helped me out:
1. Don't watch porn! it will only feed that desire all the more.
2. Go to someone you trust, tell them about your struggles, chances are they are going through the same thing.
3. Keep an item that holds strong emotion in your brain that is not sex. It could be a picture that makes you sad or angry, anything to keep your mind off masterbating.
4. When you go throughout the day, don't think about your addiction. If you start thinking about how you can't control your masterbating, you won't be able to stop thinking about it. It won't be long before your thoughts turn against you.
I really hope this helps! Encouraging people not to masterbate will help you too!
Force urself not to until your habit of masturbating is gone. Tell yourself no! The stronger the urge the stronger you tell yourself no. You must retrain your mind. You need to kill it in your mind and stomp out anything that trys to grow back.
1) Tells yourself no! Stop watering the habit and thoughts. Give them no food to grow.
2) Start weeding it from your life and mind. Throw away porn, erase completly from computer. Don't pay attention to women's butt or chest on tv or real life. Push out those thoughts from your mind.
3) reinforce behavior! Force yourself to look at women without looking at the butt or chest. If you have to at first, look down at the ground until you have watered the new habit and thought process enough it has out grown your old one.
Tip--If more weeds grow pluck them out fast or they will take over what you have just planted and you will get nothing from your efforts.
It took me almost a year to stop masturbating for good. You would be surprised how much space that take up in your head. I no longer have to waste myself on that kind of behavior or type of attitude. It freed up alot of my attention, time, and imagination to put use in other places.
All my life I thought I was alone in this situation but now I see I'm not the only one with this addiction. I am a 20 year old male who been masterbaiting since I was 12...when I was 4 my uncle raped me and made me watch porn...since then I've been watching porn. I've tried everything to stop. I now have a girlfriend whom I love so very much but she's not ready for sex...the problem is..I masterbate too much and I need help, so if anyone can help me please email me at ***@****. Thanks
its easy to stop masterbtng(l) jst meditate on th wrd of God for there is power of holyness in it.i used to do it bt when i started meditatng on the word i hd stpd it since then,easy hah,jst meditate on his word
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