So me and my bf have been together for almost 10 months now and we have sex on a fairly regular basis. Well, lately he gets soft when he's on top or he gets soft when we switch positions. I feel like I'm not keeping his attraction, but he says thats not it. And he has no other problems down there. So what can i do?
Do not take it personal. Some men go threw phases like this. Some things to try: Boost his ego (men love that) Tease him. If you go out with him, let him know that you cant wait to go home for some fun.
Things to ask: Find out how often he masterbates. More = Bad Find out if he has worries. Most of the time its psychological. Let him freely tell you - don't ask to much or what he is worried about. By putting pressure on him to answer your questions can make him upset, and make things worse.
Going down during sex or during switching positions is not normal. Usually this problem revolves around performing masturbation in his spare time. Some men can do this and still have great sex anytime and some men cannot. I was one of those men that could not. Masturbation was keeping my sex drive down, not getting full erections when it was time to have sex, desensitization in the penis (not feeling the full sensation of the vagina),going down during sex, losing erection while switching positions, etc.
I stop masturbating 2 months ago and after a month I felt a complete difference in my penis. In my past, I could never ejaculate thru a latex condom because it felt like I couldn't feel anything. NOW it feels like I'm having bareback sex with a condom PLUS I'm ejaculating thru it. I had sex with three different women and experience the same great outcome every time. It's been 2 months and now my penis gets rock hard on demand PLUS stands up higher when erect.
They say masturbation is normal (which it probably is) but believe it or not, masturbation causes psychological issues for some men. I'm using me for example, the before and after effects.
I will never masturbate again. I love my sex life now and I've been waitng for this moment since I was 17 (I'm 33 now). I'm mad I spent all those years masturbating. It's not worth it!
Come back here and Keep us posted hisangel125. GL!
oral sex is not guaranteee he will stay up. if his penis is lacking sensitivity oral sex will not feel that great. if he is not feeling to sexually excited in the brain all the oral sex in the world will not get him hard. remove masturbation from this equation and she will get her man back.
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