I'm 19, been married since august, he's 29. He is the first man I've ever been with. Our sex life has really been disappointing. We do it maybe once a week, which would be fine with me, but I get no enjoyment at all. The first time really hurt. He just rushed into it before I was ready, and that is how it goes everytime since. There is no kissing or anything, he just climbs on top and starts pushing real hard. He always has to be on top. It always hurts. It goes like that for about 5-10min. When he has an orgasm he falls asleep right away. I mean really quick, like within a minute he goes from breathing real hard to snoring. I know he works long hours and we only do it at bed time but It's like he faints, and he won't wake up for hours. At first he would roll off but the last few times he just falls asleep right on top of me. He weighs 250 and I'm petite. I have to push him off and even remove the condom and sort of clean up and cover him. It just makes me feel disqusted to look at him lying there like that so I just do that. He never once has asked if I had an orgasm later. Is this normal behavior? Should he fall asleep so fast? Do you think he's just selfish?