I Can't Wank Proberly!!! I'm Really Worried :/

[will2348]

Hey, i'm really worried at the moment, ever since i can remember i have always like masturbated differently to the like normal way, i have read that other people do it like this too, but it is an incrediably small percentage, but i have always done it by lying down on my front and then rubbing my **** up and down a soft surface like a bed or a soft floor or something, i seem to *** perfectly easily doing it this way. However my main concern comes in where if i try and masturbate normally, it simply doesn't work, i can get hard, really hard and really big, but it's not the same feeling, i don't feel anywhere near like i'm going to ***, and it get it gets to a point, where the skin on the penis feels like i'm going to tear it if i do it any harder or something. I'm really concerned, is this gonna be damaging for the future, and is my technique wrong or something? I have done it like this for as far back as i can remember. And what if a girl wants to wank me off or something, it's so embarrasing if it doesn't work?? What happens if i have sex, will i be able to *** or not? Would it work, someone please help me hereeeeee. I have no idea what the hell is wrong here??? Should i see my doctor about it?

[z726]

Any sort of masturbation produces similar physical sensations, but normally you wouldn't need to put so much weight or friction on the penis as what you described. Be gentle, and any future partner of yours would probably thank you for it.

[will2348]

thankyouu, i gues this makess good sense now. Is more intense stimulation more sex like though?

[z726]

OK, so your current method of masturbation uses the pressure of of putting some of your body weight on the penis, as well as friction from whatever surface you're rubbing against, right? When I was around your age I did that for a while, so I think I know what you're talking about. When you're using your hands, it's lighter and there's less friction, right? You've gotten used to more intense stimulation, so the more conventional way of masturbating may seem too gentle because it's not what your body is expecting. Try going for several days without masturbating. Then when you have the urge do it again, use only your hands from then on. It may take a while, but you'll re-learn to do it this way.

Arousal has a lot to do with your mood, so remember to relax. And don't worry if you can't get an erection on command - there's more to life than masturbating, so just do it when you feel the need to.

[kleemas]

get some sex lube it will make a big difference and feels amazing. as for not being able to get it up for porn prolly means ur just to use to porn, u can switch up the kind of porn ur watching theres literally hundreds of different types of porn out there explore and experiment with.

[will2348]

Also, i can sometimes struggle to get a boner over porn or anything like that, which really worries me that there is something really badly wrong, i'm only 15 so i don't know what will happen in like a sex situation type thing?

[will2348]

but my penis isn't circumcised, that worries me too.

[z726]

I had the same problem when I was a teenager. The skin was tight during erections as a consequence of having been circumcised, and it would always feel like it was about to tear if I tried masturbating with my dry hand. Too much friction. It was a while before I figured out how to rub it against something soft like you're doing, but soon after that I figured out the more practical solution: use some sort of lubricant. Hand lotion worked well for me back then, or there are lubricants specifically designed for sexual activity. Find them at any drug store or grocery store.